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writes:Me and my boyfriend have been together 14 months and in the 1st month i cheated. We worked it out and stayed together, but about 4 months into our relationship he deleted all my boys numbers off my phone, all boys off msn and everything. i think its silly. i am not aloud to make contact with another boy at all! also he dose not let me out with my friends. if i do he get's angry and starts an argument. i love him and want to stay with him but i dont' want him to be so obsessive with me. what shall do ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): I can understand why Mr.Anonymous from 5th November and 6th November seems mad at you.
Lady you cheated on him.You definitely don't love him.It doesn't matter if you cheated on him in the first month or after 10 years.
The only thing I am wondering about is, why is he staying on with you and making your life miserable?.End the relationship at once.Trust is like a glass vase.Once its broken you can never get the vase in its original condition.Sadly, he is never going to trust you or probably any other woman who comes into his life ever again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2008): Well it is your fault, you cheat on someone you not only ruin the relationship you ruin the person too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): It serves you right. Once a cheat always a cheat. Do the guy a favour and end it. No one should be made to feel the way you made him feel through cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): Honestly... I think you should dump him. Why should you be stuck with someone who controls your life?? It's your life not his. Don't let him rule your life... which is what he's doing now.It's up to you, but thats what I think =]xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): to be honest you have to understand were he is coming... im not condoling the fact that this is far to over posseive but in all honesty he kinda has the right to feel insecure/ jelous or even feel axious toward what you are up to... you havent given him the reassurance that you have learnt your lesson and now love him with your heart...its always hard to trust someone that has done something in the past to make you doubt... as the saying goes once a cheat always a cheat... though with the right kinda attitude im sure you will get through it.... tell him ou understand why he is doing this... reassure him that he has every reason to doubt you because of the past but at the same time tell him that you've learnt your lesson and teh past can not and will not determine your future trust me it helps alot... good luck
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reader, Reebe +, writes (5 November 2008):
 Ok you made a mistake and cheated, but he is now being very controlling over you.
You will need to sit him down and explain that you wont do it again he has to trust you, if he doesn't he is not going to change. With out trust in a relationship you have nothing. Good luck I hope you can work it out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2008): ok.. basically, you need to explain to him that you have changed and that he can trust you. you need to convince him that you are trust worthy and try to reason with him that you need some time alone with youre friends and that youve known them for years, and that all they are is friends. you also need to make it clear to him that you love him, but that you cant have a relationship with someone who is that posessive, because it makes you feel like he doesnt trust you. however, dont force any of this upon him. you need to talk about it in a relaxed and friendly manner, because its clear that he has trust issues, and the chances are, that he just genuinely cares about you too much to risk you going off with another boy.hope this helps and that you both sort out your'e relationship. xxxxx
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