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41-50,
*exychocalate5
writes:I love my boyfriend but how can I stop being so jealous when he talk to other females. I know he is a friendly person but I'm trying to trust him. I need help or I'm gone lose him.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (11 February 2011):
 What are the circumstances specifically that you are getting jealous about? Your fears may be totally justified, but we don't have any information than he talks to the other 50% of the population.
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reader, Esme7655 +, writes (11 February 2011):
Tell him, it bugs you. It hurts. I get jealous too. But I know he wouldn't act on it, because really my guy is goofy, and I think his flirting tends to annoy the other girl :)
Kiss him passionately, get extra kinky frisky during playtime, show him that he is all yours!
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (11 February 2011):
You have to find out where this jealousy comes from. For most people it stems from insecurity. So you have to address that.
Tell yourself he picked you, not some other woman, and that even though he talks to them he comes home to YOU. Flood your brain with logic: men don't fall for every woman they come across. Even if he would cheat, your jealousy would not stop it: actually, it's more likely to cause it.
By letting him know you trust him fully makes it harder for him to break it. Loyalty creates and maintains loyalty in healthy relationships. Jealousy drives people apart.
Don't expect to get over it at once. Take it one step at a time and you can beat this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): How would you react if you were casually chatting to a man and his girlfriend started getting jealous over your meaningless chitchat? You wouldn't understand what you had done wrong or would feel guilty for unjustified reasons. Alternatively, imagine how you would feel if he reacted like you do when you speak to other men. You need to imagine the women your boyfriend is talking to our men and see how you feel then - is his behaviour inappropriate? To assume that your boyfriend can only interact with women on a sexual level is offensive to yourself, he is not only with you for sex but because he likes YOU. If you feel that he is flirting with these women then you need to explain that this makes you feel uncomfortable and if he is worth your concerns he will listen and ease off. Remember, at the end of the day you are the one he has chosen to be with and if he was confined to only your female company then it would show nothing for his commitment to you. Trust in what you have and stop comparing yourself to others.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2011): Hey!Im a jealous guy myself... and even when a guy looks at my lady I get upset. I'd ask for reassurance from him that he means no bad intention when talking to other ladies, and you're the only one he's interested in. Definitely tell him that you do get jealous and exlain why and then kindly explain how you think he could help solve it, as you want to keep your relationship healthy. This is your issue clearly, however, if he's a team player, he will assist and care about this. Good luck.
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