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writes:OK, so here is the situation. me and my girlfriend are now getting a sexualy intimate. I have lately been fingering her. It seems like she enjoys it very much. But getting her to orgasm seems difficult. She will not take off her pants. so i undo her belt and unzip her pants. then i go down. this usually happens after 5-10 of kissing and cuddling.I have tried rubbing her clit, which doesnt seem to work. But it does get her pretty hyped up. Since she isnt taking off her pants i am stuck with my hand down her pants. so i dont got the most space to move but i can deal with it. i get my finger in and pull up she loves that. and i try to put pressure on the outside with the ball of my hand to. Then i find a a round soft spot which i believe arouses her well.... i rub that. after awhile of trying those things she gets very aroused and seems like she tries to close me off. she pushes down and it forces my finger to slide almost all the way out of the vagina. is this because she is almost at her orgasm or because she wants me out?both?but my bigger question is how can i get her to orgasm?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): Hey man, Im 28 years old,.... ive been with my girl for 7 years now,.... shes 24, she was a virgin and 18 when i first touched her,.... she loved it and i got her off with just my finger (middle) shortly after that we decided to have sex because we loved each other and i think it depends on the girl really.
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reader, DoubleM + ♥, writes (6 December 2009):
 It is very true, as "Ask oldersister" advises, that bringing a young woman to orgasm by fingering alone is next to impossible. And even if a young man knows all about providing a skillful G-spot massage, which is very unlikely, it would not be possible without total access to her privates.
Besides, that technique is most effective when associated with oral stimulation (cunnilingus) following a lot of exciting foreplay. In short, your chances of making her orgasm as you describe are slim to none, and slim left town yesterday.
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reader, Ask oldersister + ♥, writes (6 December 2009):
 Newsflash: Most females don't like fingering and very rarely orgasm from it. I've only met one woman in my whole life that has been able to orgasm by having two fingers inserted in her vagina by a very experienced 53yr old that was able to find and stimulate her g-spot correctly. Many teens have no clue what interests them sexually and many will put on a performance because they think that's what boys want, just FYI. I think your girlfriend is getting more excited off this being a new experience than anything she feels physically. What you described to me doesn't sound very arousing, honestly, and I've never heard any women ever talk about how hot it was when some guy fingered them.
If I were you, I'd just go back to kissing and building from there until she can show you what makes her orgasm. If she's unable to do that or discuss it, she's not ready for a sexual relationship yet and you probably won't be able to make her orgasm. I know what I'm telling you is a buzz kill but I'm sure you want it to be real when it does happen. It really has less to do with you and your skills at this age and more to do with her own understanding of what makes her orgasm and articulating that to you. Sticking a finger up her won't accomplish what you are asking, in other words.
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