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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for just over a month, we have liked each other so much for a very long time and he was, well still is, my best friend. We have had sex and I really enjoy it and so does he, I have had 3 other sexual partners but with him it's different, sorry for being cheesey but it's more 'magical'. I really just want to please him so badly. There's where the problem is, he wants to try kinky things, which I am game for but I feel too shy to try anything in case I make a fool of myself. I know he will love me no matter what but knowing this doesn't make me feel any better about making myself looking like a fool. I want to know how I can make myself more confident with kinky sex? and be able to take control during sex? How can I talk dirty to him? Also how can I feel more comfortable with telling him what I want him to do to me?
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reader, WorldFallsUp  +, writes (30 March 2009):
 I know how you feel. Its scary to just open up with it. Your mind thinks of the worse and you panic. What I had to do in order to open up is just leap! Its like in order to do it you just have to jump right in and don't look back. Its like the first time you tell someone you like them. You can plan and prepare all you want, but in the end you never follow that plan. Sex, in general, is the same way. Do you bite his ear there, or touch him like that, or say this? Its scary when you get down to it, but the only way to learn is to trip. Regardless, he will love you."Anyone can have passion, but it takes true lovers to laugh" is one of my favorite quotes. Go with your heart and your gut. Everything should come to you instinctively and follow those little voices speaking from your inner self ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2009): Its simple baby, he will make things that seem like mistakes to him but turn you on, vise versa. The only thing worsle than failure is regret. Live laugh learn, live by doing it, laugh when you feel nervous, and learn what he likes
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You got it!
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