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writes: Okay. I'm 21 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. My past relationships I've been cheated on. Finally I found someone who doesn't cheat and I trust completely. One problem. He is very insecure. He makes stupid comments and asks if I ever cheated like once a week it drives me insane but that's his only downfall. I just found out I'm pregnant and now he is asking if its his. I'm with him all the time he has no right to even ask me that. He was really drunk but I don't feel that's an excuse. Now I feel like I'm stuck because I'm pregnant. I wish I would have left him along time ago I'm so sick of this bull. Is there anything I could do to make him trust me? Or what do you think I should do leave?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2006): I am in the same kind of situation. The only thing that's different is I aborted my baby. My husband has been falsely accusing me of things since about 4 years into our marriage. I've never strayed and I can't take his accusations anymore. He's very insecure and it's getting to the point of paranoia. We tried counseling and it worked for a while, but them he started to become abusive and even more jealous. I had to get out and I'm glad I didn't keep the baby. Although I regret that it had to be this way, divorce is next. I hope your situation turns out better then mine, but think about your child!!Abortion is something I would never do again. So is marrying a jealous man.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Your pregnant so maybe the hormones are making you even more irritable to his yackedy shmackedy. Calm down and dont do anything to crazy just yet! Talk to him and tell him that he definitely needs to get over his insecurity now more than ever since you're having a baby together. If that doesn't work, try counselling (or better yet, get a close friend with a neutral opinion to listen and help you both work it out. Usually works the same as counselling but a lot cheaper!)
You say he's great every other way so just work through this one and I'm sure he'll be your perfect guy!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (24 September 2006):
 I think you should ask him to get profesional help if he refuses and goes in with such behaviour you should leave him
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 September 2006):
 Firstly you need to talk to him explain how your feeling and explain that now your pregnant the stress of his insecurity is even worse you need to make him see how you are feeling and how he is making you feel and tell him that you love him and only want to be with him and see how you get on with that.
When it comes to it you've got to do whats best for you and now that you are pregnant you have to think about whats best for your baby too and is being with someone that is emotionally grinding you down the best for you both?
Good luck :o)
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