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female
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30-35,
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writes:I have a crush on my physics TA. He's a grad student and I'm a sophomore in college, so our age difference isn't a big deal, it's only about 2-3 years. I think he's really attractive, both physically and in personality too. I go to his office hours a lot and he's always really friendly and open, more so than with other students. In his emails, he is always really casual and not professional at all, always a bit teasing. I've seen his emails to other students (my two other friends in the class) and his replies to them are always to the point and very formal.I think the reason for this might be because I myself am very open with him, I joke a lot, and when I'm in office hours with other students, I have a more light-hearted attitude as opposed to the other students who are so tightly wound and freaking out about their grades. I ask questions and pay attention but I also try to add a little bit of humor in there so that it's not a total drag for us. I'm wondering what to do about this situation. I know it's a bad idea to try and get involved with a TA while I'm taking his class, so I'm not looking to hook up with him or ask him on a date. I want to know what to do in case, in the future after this class is over, I want to still maintain a friendship/relationship with him. I wish I could have a real conversation with him, one outside of the physics realm, because I can tell that we have a lot in common just based on our personalities, how we address the things in our life, etc. I feel like we would discover we have a lot in common if we could actually talk. How do I go about having a real conversation with him? How can I maintain a friendly relationship with him throughout the semester?
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (17 February 2010):
 Keep going to see him even if you don't have any questions just to say hi and see how he is doing or send him emails. If you get the conversations away from school work he will see that you are interested in him and not just the class. Then after the class is over ask for his number and propose some hang out ideas for the two of you or a group. As long as you keep in touch it will keep him thinking about you and the friendship will grow.
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