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writes:When my husband and his ex(a woman he had sex while being married to ME)sketched a smile in between them I was watching.This made me go mad and the horor once I was terribly sick of it started rewinding in my mind.I still hate him for this reason.He having sex with another woman is still in my mind.I can never forget it and It makes me think to runaway from him.I can never forget it.How can I live with him happily when this nightmare still is fresh in my mind?I still need to have sex but how can I ask my husband for it when we have problems like this in between us?...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2008): oh my" this is really hurt sister, but yes it is really hard now to deal with this.. what about a little space, give your self a time to think it over, give your self a freedom, a time to let your soul lern to forgive him.., think if you can forgive and forget... just always look after your self, stay healthy and u will be fine.. XXX.. gladyz
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (5 June 2008):
 Hi Hunny
Im not suprised you feel this way, Have you and your husband spoken openly and honestly about what happened and have you though of some counselling to get you through this..My husband cheated on me and he was gone, No second thoughts just gone bags packed and out within a matter of hours..Sometimes I thought at the time that I should have listened maybe to as why, And I did give him a chance to talk with me after we split up. But he said it ment nothing so in my way of thinking if that ment nothing then our marriage ment less as he was willing to loose everything for something that ment absolutely nothing to him...Maybe I would have gone for counselling with him but I had been in a terribly violent marriage before that so I just wanted out...
Was there any problems in your marriage before this happened?...You said that you have seen this woman while you were together and they passed a smile at each other, Hunny that is adding fuel to an already burning fire and it makes me wonder if your husband has any remorse for what he has done to you and how much you are hurting because of it..He needs to know if your marriage is going to work after this. So many emotions will be going through your mind at this moment and unless they are spoken about and you are comfortable that this will never happen again then you will not rest...You want sex but cant because you feel betrayed and before you can get back to the way you were with each other there are questions that you need answering, It is so hard to trust again after something like this happens sweetheart..If you can I would talk with him about some counselling as this I think is the only way forward after something like this, You can talk to each other but it will mostly end up in anger ,hurt and tears so it best if there is someone else there to help put all this into perspective as to why it happened..He needs to know and truely understand how this has affected you, Your trying to come to terms with all this and then you see this smile between them it must have hurt you so much hunny..
http://www.videojug.com/interview/infidelity-and-healing
Ive found a video link to help you hunny I hope it can help even just a little, PLEASE TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH MUCH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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