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writes: Please help me to get over the fact that ny partner, and father of my two sons, has cheated on me. He had an affair with a girl he worked with. He now wants to make it right but I still hate the girl as she knew about me and our children all along. How do I get through this? I feel eaten up by bitterness and dispair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2007): I know how you feel my husband had sex with a close friend of mine which he works with. it is the most aweful thing to go through ever. will they change there ways we will never know just know that this has happend to so many good people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 June 2006): I am so sorry you find yourself here. If your partner is truly sorry and honestly wants to repair the damage he has done, you can get over this. It will take time and the only way through this is THROUGH this. You can't avoid the tears, the pain and the feelings of despair. Just make sure his affair is really over, before you begin recovery.
Each day will feel like a mountain, but you will climb them.
Get some counselling if you can, he needs to as well, he has to know why this has happened in order for it never to happen again.
Talk to some friends on THE HEALING HEART website.
I wish you one minute of peace plus one more each day.
In few months time you will feel better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2006): I understand this situation and am dealing with it personally. I found out last week that my husband was having an emotional affair with his co-worker. While at first he was willing to do whatever it takes to make this work, when I asked him to quit his job, he showed great hesitation. I realize that leaving your job/career is difficult, the only right thing to do is to get another job and start over. It's absolutely unfair that he would want to continue working in the same place as the woman that he cheated on you (me) with. Something's gotta give...
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reader, Honesty25 +, writes (15 November 2005):
Ditch the bitch - and when I mean "bitch" I mean the HUSBAND who wronged you and knew better. He's an adult who has a concience, but obviously failed to listen to it. How very sad this is. As far as the other bitch - who cares? You were made to look like a fool and she had no morales. This should easily show you what an idiot they both are
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A reader, Serafin, writes (21 March 2005): HiI'm sorry for what happened. What your husband did was not right but can be forgivable if you truly want it. It will take a lot of work for you to trust him, but also by allowing him to put wrong a right.As for the woman, she should have known better and would think that your and your husband would find it difficult with her still in your husband's workplace, so if your husband is truly serious about making it up to you, then finding another job would be the most apprpriate thing to do.You will get through this in time, but it depends greatly on which path you take.It's natural you're going to feel bitterness and despair bacause you feel unwanted and dont know what to do.I truly believe that people deserve second chances only if they truly try to change their ways for the better. But it's what you truly feel. Give it some time and decide on what to do with a fresher mind.e-mail me and let me know how it goes.
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