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writes:HI I am in a six month relationship with a 26yo professional male. Our relationship is ideal on a number of levels. We have great respect for one another and our interests and hobbies align perfectly. Socially our friends and family all get along great and have commingled. All and all the perfect relationship. Except for one thing my boyfriend has low/no sexual desire for me. He is willing do to anything to fix it because so much of our relationship is a once in a life time thing. Sex has improved over time but it's not where it should be. Is there anything we can do to work on this problem?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): i am 14 yrs old nd my bf is 16 he loves doing sexual things i also do but im allways nerves about him doing things to me because i am self concius i love doing things to him but he wants to try things with me how can i not be nerves
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reader, luvme247 +, writes (15 February 2007):
 The more open that you are with him the better that your sex life will become. Tell him what feels good. The more that you communicate your desires with him the more he will learn how to satisfy you. Also remember to ask him what feels good so that he is assured that you are into him as well. Having an open communication when it comes to sex plays a very important role in determining the quality of sex in my opinion. Don't be afraid to be verbal in bed... definately spices things up a bit :) All guys are into that... If he tends to finish quickly, you may need a little more foreplay... Good luck. ;)
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reader, Bigbowser2  +, writes (15 February 2007):
 Hmm.. myself and my partner both have a high sex drive so I cant imagine what it would be like being in your situation other than extremely frustrating. It might be a case of him having a low sex drive and you a high one which would be the worst case scenarioFirst thing to remember is not to pressure him into it, also remember that you have a hand if you should ever need it when hes not in the mood.Get him comfortable, try and get into the habit of doing some heavy petting everynow and then, even if you're only touching or playing with him, it should give you some self gratification and also make him feel special and wanted. Also making him feel more in the mood. Slowly easing him into things might be helpful, it really depends on the person.Another tip - spend a long time in one sex session if you can. This should arouse him more and you should be able to enjoy it. Enjoy making him feel good and eventually, if he loves you like you say, even with a low sex drive, he will want to make you feel good too :) Its promising that he wants to try and rectify it but its not always as easy as saying "yes I want that" and it happening. If you work together im sure you can heighten the experience for both of you :) But its goin to take a long time unfortunatly. Good Luck :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2007): Okay, how do you know sex isn't where it should be and who is deciding this? It may be that this is your sexual dynamic.
It could be age related. It could be stress related.
Have you both discussed this and what did you two generate for solutions? Are they practical?
Have you thought to look into a sex therapist?
This way you can get new perspectives on what may be going on and how to begin to work on the issue.
Best Wishes.
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