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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend, but he gave me his ring. I feel like this is his way of still being connected to me, but I know if we have that connection he's still hoping that we'll get back together. What do I say when I return the ring to him, to make it perfectly clear to him that there is no future for us? How can I say it without seeming rude?
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reader, Asexy +, writes (11 October 2007):
 He may not have wanted it back because he didn't know what to do with it. Keeping it reminds him of the relationship. Giving it to another girl? Ick.
When you give it back, suggest he give it to his mother/sister. Tell him you don't plan to wear it again, ever, and since it's such a nice/pretty (whatever) ring you think someone should wear it. But that person won't ever be you.
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reader, baby duck + ♥, writes (10 October 2007):
 Use straight, to the point language. If you are too gentle, he'll think there's hope.
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reader, Miss C  +, writes (10 October 2007):
 You seem to have already made up your mind but I must ask, is it necessary for you to give him his ring back? You may have broken up but it was still a gift given to you by your ex and shows that you can still remember him by this. You do not need to wear it but by giving it back you may show your ex that you wnat nothing more to do with him. If however you feel it is necessary then just explain calmly and kindly that you do not feel comfortable holding onto his ring and although you appreciate how thoughtful and generous he was to give you the gift, you feel holding onto it may prevent both of you from moving on and it is only fitting that he takes it back. I hope this has helped! Let us know how it went. Miss C xx
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