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writes:I really need some advice on what to do! Me and my boyfriend broke up about two months ago. He broke my heart but since then I've moved on. He's changed beyond recognition, he now smokes and drinks (both of which he never did much before) and has been really agressive towards me every time we've spoken. Anyway, the problem is that he has a whole load of photos from a holiday we went on. My parents sent us to Venice for my 18th birthday, and because it was my 18th birthday I really want to remember it because you only get one of those, right? I don't want any pictures of us - just of the place. I sent him an email five days ago just asking for the photos in a friendly, polite way, nothing else. He hasn't replied and I'm not sure what I should do - because I really want them! I might never get to go there again - and he has all of the photos of St. Marks Square and Rialto Bridge. Should I text him and ask him, or should I ask his mum (who I'm close to and see regularly because we work together) to ask him? All of our mutual friends now don't talk to him because of the way he's acting now (no I didn't tell them to, exactly the opposite, but he's been horrid to them too!). Or should I just accept that I'm never going to get them and just leave it? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): 1 - Don't accept that you are never going to get them back. No matter how or why you broke up, your parents sent you to venice, the least he can do is give you the photo's. You will forever kick yourself if you don't get them. 2 - You could ask his mum, if you know her well enough, then why not? Even if it doesn't work it's worth a try. 3 - Did you have any mutual friends? Why not ask them to get some for you, even if they don't tell this guy why they are borrowing the photo's, any way you can get your hands on them is worth it! 4 - Does he have myspace, or facebook or something? If so go on and have a look. When your on the photo; right click, and 'save as' and voila, you have your own copy =D Whatever you decide to do... good luck, and don't give up. You have as much right to own a copy as he does, if not more! xxx
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Prepare yourself for never having the photos but I would definately try to get them through his mother.
I would talk to his mom about the photos since you are close to her. If he doesnt want to give up the original photos to you then how about the negatives or if they are digital than you can get a copy of them on CD. Maybe his mother can be the middle lady-he gives her the photos/negatives/copy and you pick them up from her. That way, he doesnt have to contact you and you dont have to contact him. See if that works.
If that doesnt work and he still wont respond to you or his mother's requests then its probably best to forget them all together. Break-ups suck and no one EVER said it had to be fair.
Good Luck!
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