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writes:Lately, me and my boyfriend of seven months have been arguing a hell of a lot. He's usually very sweet and caring, and considerate of my feelings. As of recently, however, he's been thinking of himself more than me. He'll do something even if he knows it upsets me a lot. He's been lying to me about him cutting himself for four months now, blaming his cat. I only found out yesterday and am heartbroken he could not speak to me about it instead. I thought we had an open relationship but apparently not. He told me he didn't want me to stop speaking to him and didn't want to upset me... But he knew that it would hurt me more if I fount out he'd been lying to me. I got him to admit it and now I don't know how to react...Also, he's been breaking so many promises to me lately and I'm getting tired of it. I don't want to break up with him as before all of this started happening, it was a wonderful relationship and made us both incredibly happy. I was just wondering if anybody could help me get my relationship back on track and help me get my trust back in him? This has only started happening for a couple of days, but for those days it's been constant arguing... Please help me get my relationship back on track? Thank youxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your responses. I've emailed him asking when he's free so we can both have a good talk on our relationship :). Thank you again for replying
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reader, -NothingLasts4ever- +, writes (2 May 2009):
 Me and my boyfriend have been in this situation a few times, and we solved it.
What we did was we sat down with each other and talked about what was wrong. He said what he wasn't happy with, as did I. And then we both promised to work on the problems together and we did.
I'm not suggesting you do that, but I think if you want to sort this out without breaking up, you need to talk to him. Let him talk to you and you talk to him. Solve the problems which are causing the arguments and the cutting together, that way you stand a better chance.
Good luck
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reader, tina222  +, writes (2 May 2009):
I got some advice on this one because my mom was kinda in the same spot as you. What I can say is Speak Up! Ask him why he cuts himself? Is it because he is deppressed? Sad? Mad? Talk to him about that even though i know you probley are shocked, but talking may help. If a couple can not talk to each other about ones promblems than they aren't a good couple.
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