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*isti Hdz
writes:I am 24 and I have had sexual relations with women in the past, and I love oral sex, but my husband refuses to do it. He is from a country where it isn't as widespread as it is here. How can I get him to try it, or do I live without it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 May 2008):
 Dear, I happen to be a Mexican, too :-). I guessed your husband would be Mexican for the second part of your nickname, which I suppose stands for "Hernández".
It's true that wide areas of Mexico are more traditional. But I'm not sure whether oral sex isn't that "widespread" in others, or among other age groups. For some groups of people, oral sex is as common as anywhere else. You can see he has no problem receiving oral, does he? Does it sound like "a country where oral sex isn't that widespread"?
I don't think the problem is his being Mexican. His problem is simply that he doesn't want to give oral. We can speculate about the reasons, but certainly oral not being "widespread" is not.
I like straight shots. If I were you, I would simply say that you want some oral, too, and that you need some satisfaction in this manner. I wouldn't mention the fact that he receives it without a bat of the eye.
There are some things that people do and other things they don't. This might be the case for him with cunnilingus. There's also a chance that you will have to accept him this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): This article might help:http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=3724The author, Dan Savage, is a renowned sex/relationships columnist. He is of the opinion that oral is a requirement in any relationship and that any man (or woman) who doesn't come with it is defective and should be tossed back in the water, so to speak. He also believes that a partner's refusal to perform oral - which is a refusal to meet your partner's needs - is perfectly fair grounds for leaving them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): thats a tricky thought "I think if I love him I won't pressure him to do something he doesn't want to do, but then again if he loves me he will do whatever to please me."i know some guys just dont like doing it..i guess all i can say is you can make it look as presentable as possible.when i got a brazilian wax, i definetely got more head from my bf.
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reader, Misti Hdz +, writes (3 May 2008):
Misti Hdz is verified as being by the original poster of the question He is from Mexico
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reader, Misti Hdz +, writes (3 May 2008):
Misti Hdz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso I give him oral sex, he doesn't ask for it I do it cause I love it, and so I can't hold that against him. I think if I love him I won't pressure him to do something he doesn't want to do, but then again if he loves me he will do whatever to please me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2008): if you give him oral, i think he should return the favor. and if you don't then do and im sure he will like it and return the favor. oral pleasure is certainly something that you should live with, everyone has needs, and i think this is definetely one of them. if he keeps resisting, i would freshen up one day, get real pretty...tie him up and sit on his face. and he will learn to like it.and i saw this add on craigslist for a "pussy slave."if you dont want that at least read it cause the FAQs are hilarious. :)good luck!and just curious, where is your guy from?
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