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female
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30-35,
*illadavill
writes:how can my boyfriend make me have a great orgasm...be very detailed I need every little detail...i always have to play a part in cumming but I want him to make me do it on my own while havin the penis inside me.or something better?.....tell me please
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 February 2009):
 Oops. Orgasm was misspelled in the previous posting, but it still takes you to a number of writings if entered into the search field. At least two other topics you could read about are:
Double M on the clitoral complex
Double M on female masturbation
The "clitoral complex" is a somewhat more advanced theory, based on decades of clinical study by sexologists, and partly on personal experience, that helps explain why some activities (or techniques) work with some women, but something else works with others. The issues seem to arise frequently on the DearCupid Web site, but I've only attempted to explain the reason a few times and somewhat superficially. Nobody asked for a more in-depth explanation.
So here is a bit more. The female body, and especially her sex organ areas, are much more complex than that of a man. Her clitoris is much like the nerve center of a wide array of sensual "hot spots" that can encompass nearly anything from the tips of her toes to the crown of her head, to varying degrees. It is her man's quest, and challenge, to discover where her hot spots are, and what stimulates them with the best results. Few men ever really bother, nor would they have any comprehensive knowledge or concern about this.
The erogenous zones may include many other areas of her body, including but not limited to the lips, ears, neck, breasts, stomach, thighs, back of the knees, etc. Her hot spots provide at least supportive stimulation to her clitoral complex. Focusing on the specific area of the vulva, however, but also including the anus on most any woman, the "clitoral complex" extends far beyond the little clitoral bud located above the urethra. It is rather unfortunate that the clitoral "bud" is located somewhat distant from the vaginal opening, which is of course where most men want to insert. It is almost like a design flaw, but there are some ways to enhance stimulation to the clitoris during intercourse aside from finger massage.
Anyway, the best way for a man to thoroughly stimulate a woman to a mind-blowing orgasm is to enthusiastically stimulate her hot spots for a good while, then skillfully address her vulva and clitoral complex, which includes her G-spot, long before he begins vaginal penetration with penis. The process involves G-spot massage along with cunnilingus (all kinds of oral stimulation) and other manual techniques with hands, mouth and body. Her participation with fellatio is also recommended. If all this other stuff precedes the vaginal penetration, then a woman may enjoy multiple orgasms that can culminate in a crescendo orgasm in the end. You'd just have to be there. lol
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (21 February 2009):
This is a good question, but I do not have time tonight to again delve into the phases of the answer to which I've already contributed. My suggestion, if you are interested, is to enter the following phrases in the search field at the top of any page on this Web site:
DoubleM on cunniligus
DoubleM on G-spot
DoubleM on oragsms
DoubleM on foreplay
See what pops up, and perhaps some of my advice and detailed descriptions on these matters will prove useful. You might also try similar phrases for various aspects of sexual activity, such as multiple orgasms, clitoris and more. DoubleM
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2009): [long sigh]
Sex = communication.
What strangers tell you what you should do is hardly accurate. We can give you ideas BUT ULTIMATELY, you have to communicate with your boyfriend when having sex. That's all there is to it. Pick up a book on sexual techniques if you like, search for it on the net, but again, ultimately, it's how YOU communicate with HIM to achieve a pleasurable experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): u on top,maybe in a reclined chair? works everytime for me. but make sure you both take time exploring each others bodies, learning exactly what to do and how to do it is all part of the fun, especially if he learns to do it without your assitance, will make him feel like he's doin his job properly. maybe invest in a cpl of sex books, with pages for things to do to him and pages for him to do to you and just have fun experimenting. have fun!
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