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writes:Hey x i am a 13yr old girl i hav been told by sum boys that i am quite pretty so its not my face thats annoyin meit my bludy confidnce (mind my language) for example: if there was a boy i liked me and he liked me back , if he came up to me to try and strt a convo then i wuld actually nt say enythin nd the boy boy wuld porbably walk away as i am the shittest conversationalist wid boysI get so depressed bout it coz wen i think bck to my past i actually realise that i hav neva had a decent conversation tht lasts over 5minutes :( wt can i do 2 try and get confidence?
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 February 2007):
 The key to your problem is smiling. After all, consider yourself talking to a guy who just looks at you and doesn't say anything. If you smile you'll make the guy feel more comfortable. Conversation isn't difficult. Think of a few topics that all guys like to discuss like football or even themselves. A good way round not knowing what to say is to ask them loads of questions and let them run with it. Then you can just sit back and listen. But remember, talking to a guy isn't any different to talking to a girl, you just need practise.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (8 February 2007):
 The more you practice the better you become, and this builds confidence.
It's not easy, but here a few ideas that might help you:
1) Does he have a big interest in something? Then talk about it with him. Even if you hate football you can ask questions like "what's your favorite team?", "what makes football so interesting?", "do you enjoy playing the game yourself, or do you just like watching?" This will make him open up and you can steer the conversation away to other topics.
2) Talk about something that you feel comfortable talking about. Talk about your dog, all the crazy stuff it does. Or about how you love painting, and find trees especially interesting because they try so hard to reach the sky.
As I said, it's not easy to talk to people, and guys who start talking with you and walk away because you're quiet are most likely walking away because it's difficult to have a conversation with people who don't answer in more than a word, it's not because they don't like you. So whenever someone asks you a question, try to answer with a bit more than "yes" or "no".
Good luck with the conversations, I'm sure you can do it. =)
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