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26-29,
anonymous
writes:About a year ago me and my girlfriend got caught smoking weed, and we broke up, anyway i stopped doing drugs a few months after and a year later, we started dating again, but her parents won't let us see each other, her mom started warming up to me, but doesn't want us to hang out because every time we do she gets in a big fight with her husband (girl friend's step dad). me and my girlfriend were best friends and hung out everyday, i honest to god think i will marry girl, and i'm not really worried about us, but recently her mom has been letting us hang out about an hour a week, while her step dad in out of the house, how can i make things better with this man so he will tolerate me seeing his step daughter, the girl i love
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reader, totty-flossy  +, writes (8 June 2011):
 Well first of all smoking weed was a very daft idea and i hope you can see now that it wasn't worth it at all! Look at the problems it has caused for you now! (motherly rant over)
Ok firstly i would suggest maybe speaking to your girlfriends mum and asking her if its a good idea for you to approach the step dad and ask if you can be forgiven! If she says no and that it's an awful idea and completely out the question then we will have to think of something else but if she says yes go for it then its a brilliant way to show your maturity! Just sit down with him and politely explain that you know it was a stupid idea and you were just young and silly when you tried the weed and that you can completely understand why he doesn't want you anywere near his step daughter, but just say you have grown up alot since then and you wouldn't dream of doing anything like that again! Tell him that she is your best friend and you have real feelings for her and would love to be able to see her but that you don't want to go behind his back or do anything like that and wouldn't want to go against his wishes, just say that you understand that you need to earn his trust and respect back but that your happy to do that and if he lets you see his step daughter you understand that it will be by his rules!! If he does agree to let you see her then for a few weeks or a month or so you need to play by his rules! This may mean seeing her less out of school or not being able to be alone together in her room etc, but over time as you build trust then the rules will loosen and you will be aloud a bit more freedom with your girlfriend!
Please don't mess up by going behind his back though if he agrees to let you see his step daughter because then your back to square one and the chances of him giving you another chance are very very slim!!! xxx
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