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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Please, please help me! This might end up being long but I'll try my very best to make it short without missing important details (however important they may be...)My ex and I have this "mutual" friend. Mutual in the sense that whilst we were together, the three of us used to go out and have fun or sometimes I'd talk to him online if I wanted to ask/tell him something or sometimes simply because I was bored. Sometimes we'd have conversations online that could last for hours if we both had enough to say and it was great.They're both nerds, so most of the times we'd be out together, I sometimes didn't quite get what they were talking about, which led the "mutual" friend to believe I was shy. Then there was one weekend last year where I stayed at his house, kind of by accident. (My ex and I were meant to go together, but something came up and he couldn't make it, but because everything had been planned already I decided to go alone. I thought it'd be fine - it wasn't!) Because it was the first time we'd ever been alone it was kind of difficult to make conversation, so it was a really awkward weekend.Then my ex and I broke up and I spoke to the "mutual" friend maybe twice after that and then we didn't speak for six months (until I emailed him happy birthday last Friday).The thing is, he's a private person. He doesn't really open up to people right away and he's the kind of person who doesn't really care if he has friends or not. But I would really like to be friends with him, but how can I get close to him when the only way we can communicate is by email or over the phone? (Where he doesn't really like talking on the phone anyway). And to assure him that if we did get together, it wouldn't be awkward again. Please help!
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