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writes:I have saw the guy that i liked so much when i was younger and still like today i always have. It was sometime last year and when i wanted to talk to him i actually did with words coming out for a change lol.I found it really harder back then but i just thought to myself this time i will say something anything and if he replys then good and if he dosnn't then i know that he just doesn't want to talk to me. But we were smiling and talking better than we ever had and i still have really strong feelings for him but it was his work place so i couldn't keep him talking for too long.Bumped into a couple more times after that and it was the same i really want to talk to him some more but i havent seen him in a long while now. I go in to his work (shop) every so often but i never see him he still works there but i just have bad timing i guess. i loved the way that he talked to me when i was with him and i messed up on one of his questions because i was so nervous and he asked if i was with anyone but at the time i was nervous so i confused that with if someone was literally with me in the shop.don't ask i'm just useless. The first time that i saw him he just said long time no see,asked what i was doing there but he sort of emphasized on the ''you'' when he said it.After that he always smiled asked about me and my family and then asked if i had anything special planned for my free time sort of thing. i really want to see it he would want to talk to me outside of work but i don't know how to ask. i just like him so much. Help!! i don't want to be too in his face or anything like that i just want to do it discreetly. i am so bad with guys. i melt when i'm near him and can't think straight. Reply to this Question
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reader, BazingaToZulus  +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Hello there! Denizen is right, it's as simple as that. Most people get nervous when they want to get the ball rolling to ask someone out. Can't think straight when you're near him ? Afraid to say something that would be embarrassing I suppose ? well let me tell you about what happened to me once. (true story) When I was in college I was working part time at a self-serve gas station. We always went to this doughnut shop to get food while working in the area and there was a girl working at the counter, she was nice and everything and after a few weeks I decided to ask her out. So I went over there before starting my shift (Saturday afternoon = lots and lots and lots of people) with the intentions of asking for her phone number, I waited in line and when it was my turn she smiled and we chatted a bit like we did many times before. Then I asked her out, so she smiled and then pointed out her boyfriend sitting at the counter at my left and he was smiling and he waved, so I did the only thing I could do...I burst out laughing. Needless to say I didn't get that date, but I had one hell of a moment there, of course I was embarrassed, there I was striking out in front of all of those wonderful people but I'm glad I did it and it's never as bad as you think it's going to be. So yeah, just like Denizen said ask him to join you for coffee or something, just forget about the doughnuts (just in case) Good luck
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reader, Denizen +, writes (11 August 2015):
 Try the magic phrase, 'Could you ever fancy meeting up for a coffee?'
It's as simple as that.
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