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female
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writes:I don't know what's going on. Ever since my boyfriend found out that I'm about 20 pounds underweight, he has been a bit over-protective than usual. I've explained to him that my doctor has put me on a good diet and I should gain some weight in the coming weeks, but it's like her refuses to listen. For example, today he picked me up from ballet and when we got home my great dane jumped on me (he does that everyday when I get home). I didn't see a problem with it, but my boyfriend did. He scolded him and put him outside. What could be going on? How can I explain to him that I'm fine?(By the way, I say "more over-protective than usual" because I do have other health conditions that he seems to stress over. I have iron deficency animia and I struggle with insomnia.) Reply to this Question |
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reader, duce00 + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 Men are by nature protective of they're woman. You will never change this and lets be honest, it is very endearing if its is not totally psychotic. Much the same as how women's nurturing quality is absolutely wonderful but can be a nightmare when taken to controlling and nagging.
I think katyayni was quite wise in suggesting you involve him in what you are doing to take care of your health. Men generally respond to action much better than words.
Let him help you, dont just tell him you are fine. Let him feel like he is part of your healing.
Get well may dear!
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2009): Excuse me, I spelled "anemia" wrong.
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reader, katyayni  + ♥, writes (3 November 2009):
 HiYou can dispel any notions about your frailty by showing that you are anything but frail. Perhaps you look delicate and that tugs at his heart. So, stand up to his caring and tell him that you are in good hands, like your doctors and there is nothing more he can do. However, at the same time, show him your diet chart and ask his help in making sure that you eat right and put on that much needed weight. That will grant you some breathing space as well as fulfill his need to look after you. Hope I helped. (Also, I think it is rather sweet of him to take care of you.) Love :)
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