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writes:My boyfriend and I have been on a break for just over a week now. The night we broke up was awful - and although it was him breaking my heart, I ended up comforting him! I know that he loves me and wants to be with me - I can't imagine that things can change that quickly since just a couple of days before he was being as loving and affectionate as always. We have had some problems but really it is his own issues and low self-esteem that have caused this break up. He needs time and space and I am willing to do whatever it takes and whatever he needs. I love him so much and I know we can make this work if he is willing to try. We're meeting up to talk about things tomorrow and I'm really scared that he's going to end it forever. I know that he doesn't want to get hurt again but that is really not my intention - I love him so so much and I honestly thought that we would be together forever. I guess my question is how do I convince him that our love is worth fighting for? I'm willing to wait and take a break but I can't just leave this. And if he does end it forever, how do I deal with it? I know that everyone gets over broken hearts but this seems so unfair since both of us want to be together. Should I just accept it or keep on fighting?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Thank you.
Turns out I was wrong - he actually thought I was too young and didn't want to wait for me to finish uni. He knew that all along, so I don't see why it's suddenly such a problem now. But all the stuff he told me about not being able to live without me and being willing to fight for our relationship was a lie. And he's changed - so much - in the last week, the man I love wouldn't have sat and watched me cry. I know, I know. I didn't beg - I'd like to think we can still be friends - because whatever's happened he was my best friend for the last nine months. And now he has as much freedom as he likes!
But then, so do I! I feel a bit of a fool, having believed everything he said. And I really did put 100% into our relationship - he didn't want for anything as far as I knew. Whereas, although he was giving most of the time, when it really mattered I always had to ask for his affection.
I know you don't want to read all this - but it has helped me to write it all out. So whoever's reading this - thank you for listening! He is an amazing guy. And we had an amazing relationship. So maybe one day he'll get over himself and decide he made a mistake. But if he doesn't - even his mum admits that I was too good for him!
Anyone else with this problem - seriously don't worry. It hurts at the time, but I know it will get better.
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reader, ninjalove  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 just hope for the best and expect the worst.I hope things work but if they don't and you guys do brake up.I'm sorry and I know what your going threw
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (10 April 2008):
 If you love him , you will allow him the freedom to choose, to stay or leave?
Whatever he decided, you need to accept it and do not force him or convince him.
Nothing you say will enter his mind when he has decided what he wants to do.
Only time will tell if he wants to come back to you.
Don't be clingy or plead for him to stay.
Give him his freedom if this is what he asked from you.
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