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writes:I dont feel part of a group anymore. Every friend of mine and even the closest ones I could say something about which makes me doubt them. I have lost trust in loads of my friends and can only trust one person fully. The rest i just don;t know. I don't have much confidence in myself and my life, and i have a negative attitide quite alot. I do meet other people but because Im a shy person at the beginning of friendshup I come across all quiet and find it hard to make new friends. I dont know what to do, and how to gain more self condifence and what to do with my feelings?
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reader, Zanie  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Well, girl... I don't have a friend that I can't say something bad about. I mean, everyone is human and no friend you ever have will be perfect. However, you should always be able to trust your friends. You need to know they will be there for you, when you need them.
There is no sure fire way to make new friends or to build up your confidence. I always try to tell myself, all the good things I have going for me and I just believe. Find the good things in yourself, and amplify them! Then you will have more self esteem and confidence.
As far as being shy and talking to new people... well, there just people! Just like you. Just be genuine and be yourself. Not everyone is going to like you, but you'll certainly find some likeminded souls who will. And when you do, build a friendship with those people. Observe how they treat others and if they are good to them, they will be good to you. My main advice about making friends is always to observe that person's behavior, what they do someone else they will do to you. If they betray someone else's trust, they will just as easily betray yours.
Above everything, listen to your gut, and remember that you are you, and there is no one like you in the world, and that you should never be afraid to be who you are, or to share who you are with others! Good luck!
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reader, Charlpop +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Hi :)
You might have to remember that your friends aren't perfect, and even though you can think of bad stuff about them, you can also think of good stuff too! :)
To get new friends, you could maybe get to know friends of friends better, by just talking to them when they're there with your old friends.
The best way to get people to think well of you is to smile :)
It makes you seem friendly and nice, even if you don't feel like it that day!
Hope this helps :)
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reader, iiSparkle +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Hey there,
i understand what you meen, i am also classed as being the "quiet" person, and i also find it hard to make friends as i am shy, but now im fine.
What makes you doubt your friends? is it something they have said about you or done to you, i caught a friend of mine talking behind my back from another friend and well since then ive learnt not to trust her 100%.
I understand if something the same has happened to you, now if these friends of yours have done something or whatever it is i think that you should start talking more within the group and start to have a laugh with them, but if something comes up then tell the friend which you trust and not them.
You cant really do anything about it, i would tell you to confron them but it doesnt seem like a good idea as they might stop talking to you.
Just carry on like its all fine, but if something happenes like this the next time then you should definetly ask them.
And with your confidence what is it? is it your apperance or mentally? you can learn to start talking lots this helped me and start to talk to different people even a simple "hi" then build on it.
Best of Luck :)x
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