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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I no longer want to have any contact with a girl who has been interested in me for six months. The girl had been using me as a back up for her rocky relationship with her boyfriend. (She never told me she had a boyfriend. I found out through her friend her real intent with me.) Recently I was suppose to attend her birthday party but I chose not to go. I tend to avoid not talking to her yet she alway ends up trying to contact me. I admit it is flattering how much she like me. She basically makes me into something much greater than I really am. Yet, I am really hurt by how dishonest she was with me. How can I break this off without being a jerk? Reply to this Question
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reader, iGirly +, writes (1 July 2008):
 If she used you in the first place then forget her! That's sooooo messed up how she toyed with you! Honesty is the best policy!
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reader, Artistry +, writes (30 June 2008):
 Hi, How about just biting the bullet, and being honest with her, tell her how you feel, get it off your chest, as nicely as you can and get on with your life. Anybody is flattered by attention, and that is what is going on, it is an ego thing, people usually respond. If you really don't want to be with her, don't try to force it. If you want her to apologize, for what you feel she did to you, then tell her, just be honest. You are able to let her know how you really feel, with words, and then with actions. I think she thinks she has a chance with you, or she wants to keep playing a game. Be careful that you are not giving off mixed signals. You have to decide what you want to do, play along, or find someome else, who you think is more like, who you want in a relationship. Your choice, you seem to be caought in a dilemma, it seems you like her, but you don't like, what she did or is doing. Talk to her, but first decide what you want out of this, if it is nothing, then let her know why you don't want to be with her, you won't be a jerk, you will be realistic, and honest with yourself and her. It will be a relief, you don't owe her a relationship with you. Be true to yourself. Take care.
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