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writes:I have a serious problem of loneliness for two years,maybe more.I am 24 years old,all my friends (and old boyfriend)went to study abroad and gradually forgot about me.With my best friend haven't talked for a year since our vacation together,1 year ago when we had a terrible fight and never spoken again.I know that sometimes they still communicate with each other and hang out but noone has seriously tried to approach me for a very very long time.i have just one friend now but sometimes i miss my old life so much...The only thing that that keeps me going is my parents,that one friend and my work.oh,and tv.i hate the after work part of the day.I hate facebook too:)anyone advice?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 August 2012):
I think that it's the old cliched answer - that you need to go out, joint a club and make new friends. It's as if you're kind of stuck in the past with all these old friends, whereas you should be out there now making new ones.
Loneliness can be dangerous in the long term, as it does lead to depression. So you need to make a break for it and find some hobbies you can enjoy. Dancing is a good one, gym, writing class etc.
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reader, BondGirl72  +, writes (27 August 2012):
 One thing I forgot to mention is to get a pet or buy some plants to take care of. I know it sounds kind of cliche, but a pet can add a lot of happiness and companionship to your life and taking care of plants can help get your mind off something other than your troubles and loneliness.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (27 August 2012):
I can understand how you feel. I had a bad break-up with a boyfriend a few years ago, and I felt very lonely afterward. I cried on the way home from work, I cried when I was at work, and I cried when I went to bed. It was terrible.
I think the best thing you can do is get out of the house and put yourself in new situations. Go take a walk, go to a park, go to special events in your community, and anything else you see or hear about. The key is to broaden your entire social circle. Maybe you cannot replace the people you lost, but you can meet new people who are interesting and caring. For example, I just moved into a new neighborhood not long ago and one of my neighbors suggested we get the others together and just have drinks and snacks. We had a lot of fun doing that. I also walk to the library, walk peoples dogs, volunteer a lot, and go to dinner with my coworkers. I also like art shows, festivals, antique shows, sporting events, etc.
It's more about putting yourself out there and making yourself available to others than it is waiting for the right people to show up. Do some things that interest you or that you enjoy. There are probably a lot things you could do if you just looked and a lot of people you would have things in common with. I also think church is an excellent suggestion as there is a church out there for everyone. It took me a long time to find the right one, but now that I have, I really enjoy it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (26 August 2012):
 Church might be a possibility. I also do not care about Facebook, but have used dating sites at times. And use the Internet to reconnect with former friends from school.
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