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How can I ask my boyfriend to perform oral on me?

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Question - (24 June 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 25 June 2008)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

What is the best way to get my boyfriend to perform oral on me? I'm not sure if he doesn't want to or if he's shy about it?? I just don't know! I preform oral on him and don't get it in return... and i really want him to do this. Any advice on getting him down there? LOL, thanks!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2008):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you for all of your answers. Much appreciated.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008):

ASK, yes ask. He would ask you if the other way round.

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A male reader, oldfool Australia +, writes (24 June 2008):

oldfool agony auntThere are plenty of men who don't like oral sex with a woman.

If he doesn't like it, this is a difficult one.

One suggestion: Ask him to very, very lightly tongue you from the tips of your toes to your forehead. The licking action itself should be almost ticklish, not sloppy. This will be a turn-on in itself. When he gets near your pussy, writhe around (preferably in the direction of his tongue!), indicating that you might like him to direct his attentions into that area. If he looks like baulking, you might ask him to very gently run his tongue up your pussy and then CONTINUE UP YOUR BODY to your breasts. Don't try and force him to do any more than very very lightly lick the lips of your pussy -- don't try and push his tongue further in or anything like that. But of course, you should show the most feverish reaction you can (indrawn breath, etc.).

When he's finished doing the toe-to-head bit, you might tell him how much it turns you on when his tongue makes its pass down there. Suggest you'd like more -- the same light licking and teasing with the tongue, only more prolonged. Make sure you're pussy is clean inside and out. Make sure he's aware that you've just showered and washed it as clean as clean.

Once you've got to this stage, it will be much easier to ask for more (deeper tongue action, more full-on mouth action, etc.). Whether he will or not is up to him.

Hope this helps.

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A female reader, lotus mama808 United States +, writes (24 June 2008):

lotus mama808 agony auntFirst, we must talk about you..uh, unmentionable. Now, I'm not saying yours is not perfect, I don't know really, however, lets cover the basics: Is the smell mild to non-existing? Very important. Secondly, is it trimmed? Some guys can't handle a bear claw. And thirdly, are you sure the taste is mild to non-existing? These three things are crucial to being on the recieving end of oral pleasure. If everything down there is alright, then it must be a mental thing for him. I find that the best way to express my sexual needs are to simply come out with it. "You know what really turns me on, and makes me orgasm like no other?"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008):

Hummm, I have never heard of a man who wasn't into oral sex on a woman. So, I'm guessing he is shy, and just needs you to ask him. All he can say is no, but I doubt he will, if you give him the green light to go. Good Luck

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