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writes:My boyfriend of three years (on and off) told me he can't trust me with his heart. He says my feelings are too "wishy/washy." My feelings always remain the same...I love him, however, I do not know how to handle problems so instead of dealing with it I end the relationship. That hurts him more then I knew. Now this has happened a number of times. How can I stop doing this and earn his trust? Reply to this Question
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (9 November 2010):
 So Glad to hear it!! Just remember to be good to yourself too! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks BrooklyGirl..I recieved the private message and saved my relationship so far!! I told him to "Come to me and tell me what he needs from me," etc. and he agreed that next time he feels I am not respectful of him he will come to me and talk it out! Thanks again for your help!! You saved me!!
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (7 November 2010):
I have sent you a private message with a few suggestions...Above all, you need to convince him that you are willing to work on it, and that you want to be there "when it comes down to the wire." And remember...Actions speak louder than words!You can do this! If you want him badly enough, which I think you do, show him you are making an effort!Best of Luck~BG~
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you Brooklyn Girl! He just tried to break up with me but I talked him into sleeping on it. I drive him crazy and I hate it.! Please give me more advice. I have no idea what I am doing. He feels I will not be there for him when it "comes down to the wire."
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (7 November 2010):
Time to grow up and start dealing with problems rather than running from them. By running you are making things worse, as you obviously realize now!
When there is a problem in a healthy relationship...the couple talks it out and comes up with a solution. That is the only way to solve problems! Communication and willingness on both parts to make things right!
There will always be some sort of problem popping up in life...some big, some small...you need to teach yourself how to deal with that fact, or you will be running your whole life!
I wish you the best of luck, and hope you can work things out with your guy!!!
Sincerely,
~BG~
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): It will depends on how much effort you're willing to make especially if he's been shown that there are women available and wanting to date him who know whant they also want and then can effortlessly provide him with the trust and security required in stress-free, drama-free dating/relationship so that your and his time could be spent laughing, living and loving versus nagging, yelling, crying and good-bying.
If it took a year for you to win him, it will take three times that to earn back his trust in you and that's only if you do it with awareness and sincerity.
The ball's in your court.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Be a person that is caring and loving. Do for him, what he does for you. Be a person that he wants to be around. Don't cause fights. Just be there when he needs you.
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