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writes:How is it that you're with someone for 2.5 years and break up with them and it doesn't affect your life in the least. We lived together for more than one year. Found out later he was cheating on me the whole time. Is that why he doesn't even care enough to call and find out how I am doing? Did it really mean so little to him? Probably right, since he didn't think twice about lying and cheating- not once or twice, but the whole time? Did I really didn't matter at all in his life that he doesn't care I am not a part of it at all anymore? Reply to this Question
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (26 May 2008):
 Words fail me. One day this guy will get what's coming to him. But before that he's going to cause a lot more misery in a lot of people's lives.
In a way you should be thankful that he doesn't contact you. All the better to completely forget about him. Consign this arsehole to the dustbin of history. And get on with your life by finding someone worthwhile.
By the way, your time wasn't wasted, even if it might seem like that. You learnt something about the world. You can do better next time. Good luck!
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reader, Deema  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 What a bummer. Must be really hard for you to feel like he never cared at all. But there are some real rotters out there. They just walk around doing whatever they want to do - but unfortunately it usually is because we give them permission to do that, even if we don't realise it. However, some of them are so good at cheating we never know till something tips us the wink. You're way better off without him love.
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reader, Dawntreader +, writes (25 May 2008):
Can't say it more succinctly than Peter Pan...people like your ex are either selfish or emotionally single, either way its just a matter of time before they cheat on you...you know the signs now...hopefully you can avoid the next one.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (25 May 2008):
 There are those kind of people - male and female - that are self-centered. They think only of their personal pleasures and consider their partner's feelings with little to no respect. It seems that you unfortunately found one of those people and you should rejoice that you're no longer being fooled. As far as not being responsive to you emotionally, yes it's possible that he cared that little for you, but it is also possible that he is completely embarrassed to the point that he can't respond with anything... nonetheless, have anything that you would really want to hear.
As hard as it might seem, please leave this as past event that happened in your life and take from it the lesson that there are those that walk this world that have little respect for others. You have seen the signs of this kind of person and have learned from it. Take that with you and don't waste another minute on this particular episode from your past. It's not worth the energy... take that anger and focus it into the action for finding somebody that truly deserves your love and attention!
Best wishes!!
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