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writes:I think I'm a pretty attractive person, and I've never had trouble getting male attention. But I've recently met a man who apparently isn't that shallow. I think he might be mildly interested in me right now, but I don't know how to go from here! I know I should 'be myself' but I can't get out of my own head! I've suddenly started analyzing and planning all of my words and actions! For example, I'll think things like "Here he comes, don't look at him, cause you don't want him to think you're too into him." Or if I know he's coming down the hall, I'll quickly toss my hair around to look sexy or something silly like that! I feel like I'm a kid again, playing all these head games, and I'm worried that I'm just going to throw him off completely. But I'm really having trouble just going with the flow...I work with him, so I see him quite often.I don't know what kind of help I'm really expecting, but anything will be of use! Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (28 March 2008):
 I wouldn't try to impress him by tossing your hair or doing anything to draw attention to your physical self. If every other man notices you, I'm sure he has too. If it's possible to go past his desk when he isn't around, perhaps you could notice any interests or hobbies that he likes. Then bring in a few magazines on the subject and appear to be reading them as he walks by.
Guys love it when you make the first move, it takes the pressure off of them. There no harm in you opening a conversation on your own or asking him out for a coffee break. Sometimes, when a guy is a bit tentative, all that he is looking for is an opening!
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