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writes:I'm slowly losing my mind trying to figure out if I should start moving on or if I still have a reason to be hopeful, because in the span of three weeks, this situation I stumbled into has gone from promising to frozen.So there's this girl on my club sports team, we see eachother at practice about three times a week at the most, unless she goes to a competition which she normally doesn't. About a month ago, I slowly started seeing what I thought were signals, seeing her stare at me when I led the group in stretching, trying to jokingly trip me up, and if we played anything else as a game like soccer, etc... she'd always guard me and again jokingly push me around, which I eventually started jokingly pulling her along with me when she would push me. After a few weeks of this, I wanted to go see a movie, so at a practice I asked generally after most of my friends on the team told me they were too busy, when I asked if anyone wanted to, she immediately said she did, so we went to the movie the next day,we joked a bit, we talked, I played up the scary parts of it to make her laugh a bit, we had fun. After the movie we say see ya and go our separate ways. Later in the day I had to sit through a mind blowingly boring dinner and figured I'd be friendly and say that I had fun, so I text her... I get nothing. I lightly freak out and end up waiting till the next practice to figure out what to think.A few days later, I see her at practice and it's like the last few weeks before, same stare-downs, same playing, etc. Needless to say, I'm puzzled. Half-way through the week though, she starts to leave practice early for ski trips, youth groups, etc. All this is perfectly timed as I finally decide to just go with my gut and ask her to hang out on the weekend. But now, all those earlier signs seem to be fading,I even tried texting her again, but I still don't get any kind of response. and it could be because she's leaving early all the time, or I just missed my timing, but now my whole grasp on the situation is slipping and I'm getting frustrated, cause I can't get her out of my head, I'm genuinely interested in her. So what should I do, clear my head and move on, or be persistent and try to follow the rabbit down it's hole?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEm, I never got the chance to ask, as she left early to go out of town
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (20 February 2012):
 ' Half-way through the week though, she starts to leave practice early for ski trips, youth groups, etc. All this is perfectly timed as I finally decide to just go with my gut and ask her to hang out on the weekend'
Im talking about this time? what did she say?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAuntyEm, thank you for you kind words, but to clarify, I never got the chance to ask her out on the weekend, if your talking about the movie, after I found out all my friends were busy I basically just asked out loud to the crowd, and she immediately said yes.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (20 February 2012):
Hmm its a bit stringy isn't it. Full on then a few mixed messages and then nothing.
There are several possible reasons.
Yes she may be busy
Yes she may just see you as a friend to fool about with but has backed off to give you a clear signal that she doesn't want to be your girlfriend (it happens)
Yes its possible she is withdrawing to see if you will follow.
Yes it's possible she might not have gotten your texts (but kinda unlikely)
You like her it's clear and girls can be tricky.
I am not clear on what she said when you asked her to hang out on the weekend? Did she say yes or no or just ignore you?
If she said no or ignored you then it looks like she isn't really into you.
If you are determined to see where it goes then pursue her but get straight to the point and ask her out on a date. Of course you have to have enough confidence to be able to take a body hit of rejection if she says no, but at least you will know for sure and can move on.
If she does reject you, try not to let it get you down. We have all faced rejection at one time or another (even me and I am absolutely fab!!lol). All you can do is be bold and go for it because it's better than skulking about, getting all frustrated and trying to work her out from a distance.
Who knows, maybe she will find the fact that you went and got all manly on her really attractive...and if she doesn't...it's her loss.
Let me know how it goes!!
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