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writes:I am 33 and my boyfriend is 39. He is in the process of a divorce (she won't sign the papers, and his attorney filed for a motion...) and he has 3 kids 15, 12, and 9. He wants me to move in, we are not engaged, tho he wants to marry me. He live 45 minutes away from me. I don't want to move in with him. I don't want to be so far away (which i made really clear in the beginging). He has given me an ultimatum, move in or break up... we are together a year. what do i do?
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (17 May 2007):
 You have only been together for a year and already he is laying down the demands...move in or move on...sounds like someone with a very inflexible, immature personality to me. He is clearly not mr perfect as he already has one failed marriage behind him. You have got to be careful and tread carefully. If he isn't prepared to accommodate your needs and compromise at this stage it should send you a clear message to run now...he is making demands on you now, what will be the next demand?
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reader, LenaTobery +, writes (17 May 2007):
 why mess with a married man he has alot of things in his life that he needs to work out before he can move on with u so it should be the other way around he needs to clean up his mess so that u and him can be happy with no static.we all have problems but wht don't break us makes us alot stronger and alot wiser.if u do move in u should make him meet u have way move somewhere in between both points.
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