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writes:I have a rather big problem. My boyfriend who I love dearly lives about an hour away by tube and his parents (even though he's 19) don't let him have friends to stay. He works much closer to my place so after work he comes to mine, but this week, because I cant see him for 5 weeks he's come around for 3 nights, he doesn't stay, but takes the last train home (because of work the next day). But my parents make him feel really unwelcome, they say they like him, they just don't like having people in the house, but they are making my boyfriend feel awful, he is helpful, kind, even buys them dinner sometimes. We go upstairs to keep out of their way, but they still are having a massive problem with it.I've explained he is only coming round this much because we aren't seeing each other for a while, then we will only see each other like twice a week. I just want them both to be happy! While still being able to see him! ( we cant go out that much as my parents have times I have to be back and I don't have that much money for dinner/cinema etc..
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): The previous anonymous poster shouldn't have bothered to reply if it was only to insult.
I think you're being very mature about the whole thing. Have you told your parents you won't see each other for 5 weeks which is the reason for the 3 times this week?
Also, I would think parents would be happier to have you at home, where they know you are safe, then out there somewhere. Plus, he is coming to you, and he is not staying overnight.
I think you and your boyfriend are being really responsible, you are still young and working things out. The time will come when you earn more money, thereby allowing you freedom to go places, so for now you need a home base and yours is closer to his work so it makes sense he comes to you.
Have another chat with your folks, express how you feel, and see if they won't relent? Remind them its temporary, and it will be less in future. Perhaps in time they will not only like or accept him, they will also come to love and miss him? ;-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha we do that anyway, but we want to be able to spend quiet nights in! not just go to café's etc...!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): Gosh man up and meet him out! Like half way from his on the tube og to a cafe somewhere
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