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writes:I have been with my bf for 2 years, when we first started dating he was talking about me to his best friend and said that he was worried i was too nice! His friend said whats wrong with nice. His previous girlfriends do seem to have been a bit high maintenance. When my bf told me of his conversation i must admit i was concerned about how he meant too nice, he said that he meant it as i was too good for him, but if that was the case why would his friend say whats wrong with nice? Any ideas on what he really meant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): That was 2 years ago OP wasn't it? Whatever he meant by it, it pretty much had no bearing on anything and therefore you shouldn't let it bother you.
OP I'd say he was just worried you'd turn out to be a pushover or a doormat type. He was used to having to jump through hoops to make girls happy and he was just worried that you may turn out to be too timid and the power dynamic in your relationship would be too one-sided.
But look it turns out that wasn't the case hasn't it?
OP surely you've been in and seen many others have relationships, there certain power dynamics that just don't work. I'm a pretty strong character and in that sense I need a strong woman to balance it out. I like a girl who can stand up for herself and ensure I meet her needs. Basically I like to have to work to earn her. A strong willed woman with a mind of her own.
He was probably just worried you'd be too nice and too submissive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): Maybe he thinks you're being fake because he's used to women being bitchy
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): What does it matter it was two years ago your still together so I guess you like each other. His previous girls may have been b*tches and him a bad boy, they didn't last long did they.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2012): Probably that he didn't think you were his type but you've been together for 2 years so obviously he was wrong!
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