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writes:I've been seeing my bf for 15 months, we met online and he only lives a ten minute drive from me. We had chemistry and clicked early on and i've been very happy with him, also he's happy with me.But, his family dont know i exist!He lives with his parents since splitting up with his ex nearly two years ago and because the cost of living is too high around here.He's definitely not married and he talks alot about his family, shows me their photos on his phone etc, but he won't tell his family about me because he likes to keep his private life private!He told his uncle about me during a conversation they had at the end of august but he lives 100 miles away and rarely has much to do with his family locally.I kind of understand his reasons but my patience is wearing a little thin as i just want to be part of this side of his life. I can't talk to him about it cos he's adamant that he wants his privacy from his familyHe's 46, never married and i'm 44 with 3 grown up children.has anyone else been in this situation?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): It is odd yes......maybe he doesn't want them to know you met via the internet?
I also find it odd he lives with his parents at 46, I know its expensive to live alone but really , at his age, you would think he would want to find even a small flat and be able to invite you over be independant etc Are you absolutely sure he's not married or in a relationship?
Ime afraid I would have to say something,ask to meet them or invite them for Sunday dinner - or mention them coming to you for Christmas..test his reaction
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): I think the bottom line is you can't force a man to make his life open to you. He either wants to or he doesn't. Your boyfriend doesn't so where does that leave you? Since you can't make him, nor should you want to, you can break it off and find someone else or deal with it and know your relationship probably is not headed towards any life partnership/marriage. It's up to you and what you want in life.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 October 2011):
 I really honestly think there is something suspicious going on here. Yes maybe you have saw photos of his family but that doesn't mean he is not hiding something, and it would be huge alarm bells for me after 15 months if I had never been around to my boyfriends house. Let alone met his family. I honestly think there is more to this than meets the eye. If he was serious about you he would want you to be part of the family. If you are sure that he is not in another relationship well then I guess you should trust your gut instinct. But something is telling me that there is something wrong. Talk to him about it and ask him does he ever see your relationship progressing in to more, and if he would consider telling his family. Am sure you don't want to be a secret for the rest of your life. Explain to him that it is unfair on you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2011): i dont know if he is good i was very wrong
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