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writes:Hey guys..i really need your oppinion on the topic blowjob. My boyfriend and I are dating for 2 years now, the sex is great, even though it has gotten less. At the beginning of our relationship he used do tell me he needs an orgasm every day, and as his girlfriend, that would be my job. From that time on, having sex with him or giving him BJ's seems more like a chore to me, which is not really fun anymore, and we have sex like 2-3 times a week, sometimes even less.I give oral maybe 5-10 times a month, depending in how much I feel like it. He's a guy and wants it more often, which is okay, so sometimes he askes me if I can give him a BJ. He complains a lot that he wants it more often and that I don't take much initiative, which I think is not okay. I would like doing it more often, but not if he complains and makes me feel like it's my job. I told him that I'd rather have him talk to me about it, but he said something like 'I have needs, I'm a guy, I don't have to talk to you about it like some pussy.'My problem is that he talks to me about it like I'm some submissive, dumb chick. He talks to me about other stuff in a normal way, so why is it a problem to do it with sex as well? He complains to me 'you never give me bj's, i always have to ask..', which is not even really true and which doesn't make me want to do it.Is it just a guy thing that he can't talk about it in a normal way or am I I to sensitive? I even ask him sometimes if he'd like to try new things, if he's okay with how the sex is and if he wants me to do something else. I'd be glad for any advice!Lisa
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2014): If I said to my girlfriend it was her JOB to give me an orgasm everyday she would kick my ass straight out. He's treating you like a sex slave, not a partner, god I wish I got 10 blowjobs a month, I'm lucky if I get 1! But if you love someone then you have to deal with it. I'd love my gf to come in just once and give me a bj out of the blue but I'd never nag her for it or pressure her. Your boyfriend is an asshole.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2014): "Ar the beginning of our relationship he used do tell me he needs an orgasm every day, and as his girlfriend, that would be my job." Sorry, but I am surprised no one has properly addressed this. I do not know if you are incorrectly paraphrasing, but that quote above makes your boyfriend sound misogynistic - like you are required to serve him sexually because you are his girlfriend. That is the same mentality men who rape their wives have. I am not a guy, but that does not discredit my opinion of how inappropriate your boyfriend is when conveying his sexual frustration. Him being a guy with "needs" should not excuse this lack of self-control. He is an adult, not some raging hormonal teenage boy just discovering sex for the first time. You definitely seem to care about your boyfriend and you might disagree with what I am saying. But, he really needs to stop whining. I hope he pleases you in turn with all the effort you are making. You are not being overly sensitive. Your boyfriend needs to practice some decorum and not act like he is in heat. Sex is not the only factor into maintaining a healthy relationship. Respect and good communication are needed. Tell him to stop whining about blowjobs and to grow up. Give him some reasons, such as your discomfort with his constant callings. If he does not change, I would drop him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): oral sex is a reciprocal thing. personally I have always been fascinated with the female pussy so I enjoy giving oral and of course I receive in return w/o the need to ask.So if yr bf wants to receive oral more often he should give more often.
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