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writes:Dear Reader, I'm getting so caught up in stereotypical-ism :( I'm really loosing who I really am as I don't want to be a 'stereotypical' teenage girl. But, on the other hand , I just want to be excepted and not judged for being different. Does that make sense ? I go through these times where I think, be who you are and do what your heart tells you and other times I think, no! Blend in with the crowd and be a stereotypical teen because after all, you are one and everybody will like you for it and you wont be judged for being who you are. I just want to find who I really am and be excepted for me, I don't like getting caught up in all of this ! Thanks in advance xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): Everyone is a stereotypical teen when it boils down to it because they all fit into one stereotype:
Adolescence. The description of this stereotype is: teenagers who feel the desire/need to fit in, who feel embarrassed by a friend/family member, who care about their appearance or try not to be seen caring, who fight endlessly with their conscience and struggle with their self-esteem (yes, even the arrogant ones!), who feel like they have to find who they are as soon as possible, but who fail to see that they have all the time in the world, who want to be loved and may feel worthless without it, either choosing to rush themselves or give up without giving it time, who find patience challenging and who feel like they're drowning in the sea of confusion that is the time between childhood and adulthood, refusing to be considered a child, but not yet ready to be an adult, who feel alone when surrounded by others, who can't always see consequences before unleashing a whirlwind, who want to spread their wings and be right most of the time, but who are stubborn and still need guidance, who make mistakes that feel like the end of the world, sometimes leaving behind those who would pick them back up, but ultimately coming out of it eventually to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
It's a mess, but everyone fits into that stereotype at some point during their teen years. Behind closed doors, the perfect people have flaws and the people who seem not to care fall apart.
Life is a roller coaster and you need to give it time. You'll find your place in the world. Be patient :)
P.S, it can also happen to adults ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2014): Always be yourself!!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (6 April 2014):
 You will be judged no matter what. That is what TEENS do. Be who you are and who you WANT to be.
Blending in is good if you want to hide yourself, however you will always be a follower, copy-cat, unoriginal. People won't like you for WHO you are but for WHO you "pretend" to be.
No one is saying you should be "goth" (just an example) overnight, but find YOUR passions (be it for art, theater, singing, sports, whatever) and find like-minded people.
This is the time in your life where you BEGIN to figure out who you are. Go for it.
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