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writes:ok so yesterday my boyfriend's ex girlfriend called my house looking for him not on a cellphone my actual house phone. so when i asked her who is this she lied and said a different name which is not her name but i knew it was her because of my caller i.d.so i didnt go off on her i just handed my bf the phone and i guess she asked how was your surgery and something about my car and after that he hangs up and then she call back again and asks if she can speak to him again and this time i just said no.so after i get off the phone i ask him where did she get my house number from and he says its only 2 people she could have gotten it from and thats his brother or his g mom. at this point im like yeah right, but even if that really did happen why would they give her my house number when everybody know we are together and have a child together and trying to be a family. then he say well maybe they thought it was ok cuz we cool now meaning him n his ex. idk what to do anymore this girl is never going anywhere and nither am i cuz im the mother of his child and to top it off he considers this girl family smh in tears please help!!!!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (14 November 2012):
 I think Uncle Eddie has a really good point. The more you FREAK out over this the more nuts you seem and the less "stalker-ish" she seems.. Get it?
I would sit your BF down and ask him WHY he is still in contact with her. And why she would think it's OK to call YOUR house to "chat" it's not like it was an emergency call - it was her.. marking (so to speak) her territory.
You BF is ALLOWING her to do this. HE needs to be the one telling her off. I understand that he feels a bond with her family, and for the most part I don't see no harm in talking to exes - EXCEPT when the ex is not over the person. So I would talk to your BF. Is he over her? Is she over him? If he answers yes to both he really don't need to be in contact with her and CERTAINLY not calling your home phone. Since you have caller ID I assume you can block her number too? I would.
I would just not make a bigger deal out of this then it is.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (14 November 2012):
 Well, first off be patient. If this is a new event, it could quickly blow over. If she senses your hostility or that she has a chance of breaking you and your boyfriend up, she may take advantage of the situation.
Assuming your boyfriend doesn't have any ties to his ex-girlfriend (Money owed, children, property, etc) I think you need to talk to him about it and express your feelings. Tell him you don't want her calling you and that he needs to tell her to quit calling. In addition, if she continues to call, he should ignore her contacts.
If both of you are resolute in dealing with her, she will soon realize she is fighting a losing battle and move on. However, the key is don't let her get the best of you and your boyfriend and be patient.
Eddie
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