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writes:Dear Cupid, I fell for one of my best guy friends a year ago, and things have been interesting. I was going to tell my friend (We'll call him "Nick") about my feelings, but something got in the way and I didn't have the appropriate timing. Feeling frustrated and annoyed, I had one of our mutual friends tell him of my feelings. Now, as our friend told me, "Nick" only likes me as a friend. I understand that. However, I expected to see some changes in "Nick's" behavior, however, nothing has seemed to change between us. It's weird, like the whole thing never happened. I mean, I know I shouldn't get my hopes up or anything, but I wanna know why he acted that way. I mean, I expected ANY change at all, but there's nothing! I'm not upset about it, just curious... is there any reason he'd act that way? Thanks a lot!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (2 October 2010):
 A girl a while back got her friend to tell me that she liked me and my behavior didn't change toward her either... why? Cos I had already figured that out for myself and had no intention of progressing the friendship further.
I wouldn't get your hopes up, but having said that- anything can happen.
Best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2010): For myself, im face to face. I dont play the middle school "messenger" this boy has a crush on you type of thing. Its not genuine. Its not a real interest when someone relays information. You should be confident with this guy. After all, youve known him for a bit. Dont let nervousness over take you, if you know who you are and who you want, then nothin should stop you. Id say you still have a shot at being direct...Id let him know personally yourself. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 October 2010):
Either he didn't believe your friend, or he isn't interested in you.
Sometimes men only respond to be being told something directly. A friend of a girl once asked me out, and I just didn't take it seriously because the girl hadn't asked me herself. If you want to tell a guy how you feel, you need to do it directly.
Of course, the other problem is that no changes often mean there are no extra hidden feelings. i'e. your best guy friend is just that - a best friend and nothing else.
You have a choice. You can either risk asking him yourself about how he feels, or you can fall silent and try to move on from him.
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