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writes:So me and the guy i've been seeing for quite a while brought up the conversation of sex the other day. It was interesting because he's slept with 6 girls and he was surprised I hadn't slept with anyone. In fact, he said that he found it sexy and seemed really happy that I hadn't, it was as if he suddenly liked me more? Not to sound strange here, but why would he be so impressed and happy that i'm still a virgin? Or in fact be more attracted to me because of it! I'm 21, not exactly something i'd brag to my friends about... let alone something to attract guys with? I'm so confused here...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 I had a guy actually lose interest in me when he found out I was a virgin. But I guess he was just looking for easy sex. Although, such behaviouir does leave a lot of women confused.
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reader, KaileyLove  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 When I was 16, I was seeing this guy who was 21, we weren't dating, but we were FWB. At the time I was a virgin, and that just made him want get in my pants more. He was a guy who slept with 5 or more girls, even got one pregnant.
I never slept with him though, which is a good thing, but it made him stick around for a few more months and keep him trying.
I've asked my guy friends why, and they said, "Guys like the feel of an untouched girl. Sex feels really good, and it'll make an impression on the girl. Not to mention she'll want to keep doing it and will come back for more."
My advice? Save it.
Some of my friends are abstinate, and they're 20-22. I think it's a really cool thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): OF COURSE guys find it attractive! If you do not understand it then you do not understand guys very well. Guys only want an easy girl when they want easy sex. But sex with an easy girl does not feel like something to value the way it does with a girl who is picky about who she sleeps with.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (21 October 2012):
I think it just shows that you have high standards and wouldn't easly let anyone be intimate with you. Guys like a challenge, they are bored if there is no challenge. He knows that if he wants you he needs to work for it, and a guy likes that. It makes things even better for him once he reaches his goals.
That, or he's one of the rare guys who regrets his own past encounters and looks up to you. Ask him about his past sex partners, if they were someone he cared about or just random drunken hook-ups. And then maybe determine if this guy is someone worth spending time with or not...
And whatever you do, don't sleep with him unless you're in an official commited relationship of at least some lenght. Just to be sure he's not just in it to say he landed a virgin.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (21 October 2012):
 I can understand you feel like it is nothing to brag about but my guess is that maybe this guy quite likes you and the idea that you have never slept with another guy makes him like you and respect you even more. It is almost like he knows that if your relationship progresses that he will be the first person to show you what sex is like and he will be the first you experience it with. Believe it or not, guys do not find girls who have slept with lots of people attractive. He more than likely respects you for not going out and having sex with a guy just for the sake of it.
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