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writes: Hey there again. I have another issue.So I've been with my guy for about 1 year and 7 months. I love him to pieces, but I'm not sure where this is going. [I'm 21 he's 29]1.He continues to tell me that he is not interested in marriage but would go through with it to make me happy, which I don't want.2.He doesn't want kids. He says he would probably resent me if I ended up pregnant and kept the baby. He even asked me permission if he could slip an abortion pill into my food, also posting my pregnancy scare all over a social networking site to his friends.3.Sex isn't that great. I try to get into it, and sometimes it feels good, but mainly it's not satisfying. 4. He doesn't trust me and doesn't think he ever will because of past relationships. I hate that he clumps me up with his ex girlfriends.5. He won't really open up to me. Heck, when we almost broke up a day ago, he wouldn't even tell me what it was that made him cry over it.I really do love him..he just seems too broken to fix. I mean if we were both in our early 20s then the marriage talk wouldn't be a factor. But since he is a couple months short of 30, I'd think he should know what he wants by now.I'm so confused. I'm not sure if I should stay and hope he changes or move on. Thanks for any responses, they mean a lot :)
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (6 January 2011):
 Time to move out then and be on your own, let him be miserable alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks HoneyPie. Right now we are broken up, but it is because he broke up with me because of me hanging with someone of the opposite sex. He felt uncomfortable amd untrusting because of it. The only big issue is that i live with him. And we share a bed. So it'll be hard to sleep in the same bed as him knowing i'm not with him.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (4 January 2011):
I think he is "just not" that into the relationship. I think the "faults" you mentions are pretty vital for a good relationship. (except the kid & marriage part).
However, IF you at some point in time wants kids, finds a guy who feels the same way. Same goes for marriage.
Why settle? You are ONLY 21.
Don't get your hopes up that he will change, that doesn't happen. Time for YOU to move on and find someone who wants to be with YOU. The longer you wait to break up with him the harder it will be...
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