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writes:In short, My boyfriend broke my trust by stepping over boundaries we agreed on. Even though we're long distance he told me anyway. He denied saying he cheated just that "he we across the line with another woman" even though we agreed before hand that it was wrong And that I'd leave if he crossed the lineHe was begging for another chance. But because I felt he wasnt taking enough personal responsibility and blaming his settings alcohol and stupidity instead.He's now come to terms with the break up. Why do I feel I've made a mistake?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2015): I think you need to be strong and stick with your guns. You have made the right decision breaking up - you both set boundaries and expectations and he ignored that. Who cares if it was one time or if he told you? I never understand that argument, would it stand up in court? "Your honour, yes I killed him, but it was just this one time!!!" - why is that relevant, he has still done something wrong!I think you should chalk this relationship up to experience and move on. If you do give him another chance, you'll find it hard to rebuild that trust, you'll always wonder what he's up to when he goes out without you. Also, by giving him another chance, you are basically saying his behaviour was acceptable. The shock is making you feel like you made a mistake, the sudden realisation that you are not in a relationship with someone you like any more. But be strong, focus on yourself and don't waste anymore time on this boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes. We talked more. He said he has a financial plan, which is good. But the trigger was the strippers. And blowing the money HE JUST GOT when he knows he's financially tight right now.
On one hand it's principle. He knows he weong. Bit on the other hand, it was one time. And he told me. Thats where my mind hurts
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (23 June 2015):
 Is this you by any chance? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-said-he-was-thinking-about-me-while.html
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