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anonymous
writes:I've known my boyfriend for a year and a half now, we were originally best friends but it turned into a relationship, and it's great, but he never seems to be overly excited about my body. I never felt that i had a bad body either, girls sometimes tell me they're jealous. I've never had self-esteem problems, but when it comes to the sexual side of things, my boyfriend makes me feel a little insecure. He won't have sex with me; at first he said it was a time thing that made him balk at it, but now it's well past the time frame he put on it. And he's never very keen to start taking my clothes off, I'm always instigating it. And while I turn him on, he's never as into it as I am, and that hurts a little. Is it because this is both our first relationship? I can't tell, but it makes me' feel quite down when me/my body don't quite do it for him. Any input would be much appreciated!! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): What's the rush? You're young. The poor guy might just have a conscience, and want to wait for a little more committed relationship. He also may be struggling with proper expression of what he feels. In my opinion, you're a little too young to be considering this enough of a problem to post here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): He may be so into your body that he can hardly stand it, and he really wants to get things to heat up, yet maybe he is afraid you won't be into him? And he is proably afraid to that he knows you can really heat him up like never ever never ever never before, and is afraid that you are THE ONE, and that you won't feel the same? He was absolutely crushed one time before, many years ago, and is afraid the same will happen again. K?
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reader, nicewile  +, writes (13 August 2010):
u should not ask people in here. u should talk to your boy friend face to face. this makes me feel not right.
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reader, hisAngelface +, writes (13 August 2010):
 My dear girl , Do not be hurt by this . Myy boyfriend was that exact same way when we first started going out . I felt the same way you did . But now our sexlife is absolutely amazign . The reason it is the way it is now is because I talked to him and asked him about it. Turns out , he thought my body was amazing , thought I was amazing , and wanted it just as bad as I did . But he did not want to rush me .
I suggest you just talk about it . Be honest . It's a hard thing to talk about , but if you two really are meant for each other , this type of honesty won't be a problem .
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