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writes:I'm 14 and this guy who wants to date me is 17. I admit I do like him a little. But he also admits he loves my bestfriend, and she loves him back. But, she is with a guy, who the love eachother. I don't wanna date him, cause he's in love with my bestfriend, and I don't need drama between me and my bestfriend. She knows I like him, she's the one who told him. She says it doesn't bother her, but lately shes been around him alot and wearin his jacket and all that stuff, and her boyfriend is clueless about whats going on. I'm confused about what to do. I'm afraid to date him, and I'm afraid to lose my bestfriend. He says he's going to talk to my bestfriend about this, but honostly I don't want him too. Of course since I'm only 14 I have to hav my parents permission to date the guy. I know my parents will say no since he's 17, and I'm hopin they do, cause I don't want to date him. We're more friends, and I like it that way. I wnt to tell him, but then I'll only hurt him. The way I'm thinkin about gettin out of this is tellin him(without askin my parents) that my parents say I can't date him. Anyways, I'm just gettin over my recent ex, and I'm feelin great being single, I honoslty don't think I should date. But how can I talk to him without hurtin him or makin him mad at me?Thank You.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2010): The guy only wants to date you to be occupied. As soon as your friend leaves her boyfriend, this one will dump you and run to her. Possibly start dating behind your back in an attempt to not hurt your feelings. Forget about this guy. He is not worth it.
P.S. Don't be afraid to do what you want. Who cares what others think? It's your life, not theirs.
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reader, MelaBoo +, writes (7 November 2010):
 um u cant just be simple about not makin him mad at u if u dont want the guy to date you then dont just be kind and all sweet with whaT u have to say! u have to be aggressive but i lil cautious since hes older than u and a guy.. but yea just tell him im sure he'll understand.. and if he doesnt then screw him!
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reader, fisch777 +, writes (7 November 2010):
You said it yourself. You don't want to date him so why are you still thinking about it? You shouldn't worry about hurting his feelings. Next time it comes up just be honest and tell him exactly what you said on here, that you don't want to date him, you'd prefer to be single. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2010): Wow, this guy has some nerve. To actually tell you that he's only dating you because he can't date your best friend is pretty cruel don't you agree? Don't be second best hun, you're worth more than that.
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