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writes:Dear Cupid,I'm 18 years old and only kissed one guy before. That was when I was 15 and didn't know any better that all he wanted was to get in my pants. And once that didn't happen he was gone as fast as he came. After him I learned to be careful as to who I let in my life and heart. Now I have had chances to get with other guys before but because of that one guy I don't let people get to close. So the thing is that my best friend tried to set me up with her boyfriend’s friend and the night we went out all he kept trying to do was kiss me. I would say no, that I’m not that type of girl. (I like to take things slow.) He would be like "okay" then 3 mins later he would try again. And every time he asked I would say no. and now I don't know what to do. Should I give him a chance? But if I do it would only be because he friends with my friend and I don’t want to mess things up and have her mad at me. Oh by the way he is 27 years old. And he's good looking about everything but it’s just not enough for me. But should I give him I chance anyway? Or dump him? Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much Lexie88 that was really helpful. IF i see him again I'm going to be stright up with him about it. thank you so much.
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (24 March 2010):
 Well done for saying no to the other guy. This guy now might be in it for the same thing. How will you know? Only do what you want and not what you're expected to do or what your friend thinks you should be doing.
If this guy is genuine about you and if he really likes you for you, he will back off and be a bit more respectful of you. The fact that he's 27 and he's been throwing himself at you like that isn't a good sign.
You're not even dating...it seems to me that he thought that because you were a girl and you were there he could do whatever he wanted. Good for you for saying no to something you weren't comfortable with.
I would expect a guy to ask me out on a proper date and behave like a gentleman. I would expect him to keep his hands off me and not repeatedly ask if he can kiss me. He sounds like he's 14 years old and not 27! He doesn't even know you and he's asking repeatedly for a kiss. So what if you kiss him? What are the chances he's going to then keep asking for more?
You've done well so far and you've been right...the first guy only wanted one thing and good on you for not giving in. Use that experience to deal with this guy.
If you like him and would like to get to know him better, tell him so...Say to him that you think he's a nice guy but that you take things slowly. If he can't respect that and can't be a gentleman about it, bad luck for him...he can go on his merry way and find someone who's easy. That's not you. The sooner you tell him this, the sooner you'll know what he's all about.
And don't worry about your friend's feelings. Your priority is YOU and no one else. You have to live with your choices in life and not her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyour right FierceBadRabbit, but i may need to do some more thinking.
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