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anonymous
writes: It was my birthday on the 4th and I had fun went to the bar with my sister in-law. The problem is now I think my ex who disappeared 10 months ago is all of a sudden popping up on msn which he never did the entire time he was gone. I seen him sign on then signed off right after guess noticing I was online (childish I know). He blocked me on facebook now I can see him on there after all of this. Not even 5 minutes later his friend sent a friend request to me on facebook and sent me a message I of course assumed they were together. I accepted and responded not even bothering to ask about my ex cause he could have wished me a happy birthday and apologised but no his friend is trying to repair something he shouldn't be. His friend hasn't replied cause he signed off by the time I replied I thought I should make em wait so I took a shower and he left. I have more than one question.1-how should I confront my ex's friend what should I tell him right off the bat cause I like to be frank rather than play little games and act like nothing happened when they are not very good at being incognito?2-what can I do I want closure this man hurt me to the point I cannot like another guy without feeling hurt because my ex is forever in my heart. I've known him for 6 years and I know that's hard to throw away but leaving without a word hurt me I cried numerous times and I don't want to date him again especially right off the bat. I feel as though I am back in the same position I was in before confused?3-Why would he show up on my birthday not say anything just make himself noticed than have his friend message me?
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (6 June 2012):
 It's not closure you need. It's acceptance. Accept the fact that whatever happened, happened, you're still alive and hopefully have learned something from it and are stronger today.
There is nothing to confront either one of them about and no point in asking questions. Neither will have life altering answers for you. Delete both your ex and his friend from Facebook and be done with it.
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