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*elpneeded90
writes:Hi umm i need help with my relationshipwell we are not sexually active.He is really pushing sex though..He has beaten me to the point that Ive had to have stiches..but i still love him..I wonder he says if i love him I will have sex with and take our love to the next level..Should I or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): you got to run 100 miles, and FAST!!!! You deserve much much better than this guy!
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reader, UnfortunateReality +, writes (31 August 2009):
NO....noooooooooo....nooooooo....NO...
Please go see your school counselor to share about the beating...No one deserves that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Hun, no.I would deffinatley not have sex with him.That would be giving him EXACTLY what he want's. He clearly doesn't care what you think or about your needs, JUST his. And that should NOT be how a relationship should be.And that 's not what they're about. I would get out as soon as you can. Some times love means letting go. And that's exactly what you have to do. Please take my advice.It's unfair for you to have already been beaten by him. If he really deeply cares, he would have NEVER laid a hand on you.Best of luck.
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reader, angelluvr +, writes (30 August 2009):
NOT!! Why would you want to be beat up again? He will beat again. Its just a question of how soon. He sounds like he will beat you if the sex ain t as good as he wants. You need to tell him to kiss your ass and get away quickly!
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (30 August 2009):
You need to get away from this guy, call the police and have him arrested for assault. Hitting you is just the beginning, what if he gets out of control and sexually assaults you or really hurts you. Your parents need to put their foot down and get you away from this guy, if you were my daughter I know you claim to love him, but frankly your still a kid I don't think anyone knows what love is until they find it, and what you've described isn't love its manipulation that he's done to make you depend on him. If he truly loved you, he would not push you into sex, don't waste your first time on someone like that. Your first time is something you want to cherish, not regret the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): Well, those questions were meant as rhetorical, to make the OP think, as I'm sure any sane person would want what I just said...I hope! And I hope more that this IS fake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): NOOOOOO!!!!!But, do you want to be happy, healthy, confident and injury-free? In a relationship where you're respected, loved and aren't abused or blackmailed? If yes, then you should leave him. You NEED to leave him. He doesn't love you or care about you, he only cares about himself and what control he has over you. If, and I really hope, that you can get out of this relationship, for yours and any other future girlfriends safety, report him to the police.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): What the f*** is with people getting beaten and being pressured for sex?? WHy and HOW do you love this guy?? How long have you been together?Answer: NO. Don't have sex with him.Dump him. Stay away from him. Get help.Tell friends/family/even the police about him and what he's done to you.He gave you stitches?? You can go the police about that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): NO he beat you up! You need out of this relationship! It's destructive both physically and mentally! He's a beast, the police need to be called. Dump him straight away
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