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writes:hello i need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 half years and he finished it with me he said he still loves me as a person but wants to be single but in 3 months he telling me he is in love with her how can he love some one so fast when he was in a relationship for so long like 8 years lam still in love with him and l don’t wont no one so lam trying to be friends l no that she will hurt him she putting thing in his had and it hard on me it been 3 months now and he told me he is still in love with me but every time wie talk he treats me like shit and l no he not like that wont should l do l wont to be there for him and some day make it work again but for now friends with him but she is really not good for him. she broke us up she is a home wrecker Reply to this Question
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reader, daglish  +, writes (16 September 2007):
 Sound really sad when u still love someone and he doesnt seem to realise. Sorry, but i think accepting misunderstandings to break you up, if any, was a wrong move. But the women always hold the keys to a relate as long as u have been to bed with him b4.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): It sounds like your ex is in a transitional phase. He probably met her before you broke up. Move away from him emotionally and don’t be needy. It’s actually the worst mistake you could make. Let him be with her and give yourself space. If you were meant to be with him, the distance will show him what he is missing-or not. You are pushing him away further by the negative arguments. Back off for awhile and breathe. You will see much clearly with patience and understanding. Let him come up to you if and when he is ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): Well one thing you have to remember is that 99% of the times that a guy breaks up with a girl is because of someone else. Almost always there is someone else. But you can't be mad at her. It was his choice. His doing. She is not the one who said that she loved you and would always be there for you. He was. So you have no right to be mad at her and every right to be upset at him and only him. But it is understandable that you feel utterly jealous of her. And if she is bad for him well that is something that he has to find out on his own. Because right now, he thinks that she is good for him. If not he would have never left you to be with her. So there is nothing you can do about the choice he has made.
So right now what would be best for you is to stop being in contact with him. Cause clearly he is telling you more than you need to know. And if you keep talking to him you are never going to be able to properly heal and move on from this very devastating experience. As hard as it is to do, let them be. I'm sorry you have to go through this.
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