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anonymous
writes:i am in love with a newly married man he is 13 years older than me but we connect so well.the thing is he flirts with me too and told me that he really likes me.should i risk it and go with him or should i just leave it please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2007): dear girl, you are in a trap which girls find impossible to get out of because of 4 reasons 1. they think the married guy will marry them leaving his wife....that is a game of him to keep his sex life going with you.2. they think the guy loves them...grow up if he really loved you he would have married you. marriage is a word used by guys to have sex...nothing less, nothing more honey 3.they are so emotionally dependent on him that they cannot think they can live with him...get another guy for a few days if you can't handle stress.4. the guy has mind control over her in form of crying, acting, begging,threatening and thus relationship keeps going on. The bottom line is girl always loses in such relationship because she loses her most happy years and youth to a married psycho who is perhaps an expert in seduccing young girls and then these girls are too dumb to understand that they are used.due to hormones and emotion she cannot think against him and keep on getting expoited...if you are so stupid you probably deserve the shit you are in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): I'd like to comment on "A female reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007):" He is not a paedophile at all that's under the age of 12 (look it up) Can I just ask, how do you know this man? Did you know him before he got married and in what context did he tell you he likes you. It may be that he really likes you but he may not want to act on that. Does he want a sexual relationship? What does his wife look like and what is she like? Then ask yourself what kind of guy this is why he wants a relationship and is he just playing games? Chances are he is really flattered and is keeping you hanging on for ego boost. Find out as much as you can about this guys character before even considering it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2007): There is one thing everyone seems to be missing here. This is an adult male preying on the ignorance and innocent of an underage girl. What does that mean and why does that matter? He's a PEDOPHILE!!! It is not only immoral but illegal in most states.
This man obviously doesn't care who he hurts. Not his wife, not his family, and certainly not you. He's hoping that your ignorance and esteem is so low you'd succumb to his offer of being a secret piece on the side. You need to grow up fast, hon. You are at a point where what you decide will determine who you are. Will you have self-respect and value or not? If you don't respect yourself, why should anyone else?
It's fun to think you could "have" another woman's man, but the reality is he's the one "having" the two of you fooled and you'll be the fool.
Don't play his game, he can't lose but you and his wife can and will.
Good luck to you. Here's hoping you turn out to be the better person!
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reader, aunt_agatha +, writes (11 January 2007):
follo ur heart and do wt u think is rite
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reader, DocSilverback  +, writes (11 January 2007):
 He's a newly married man on the look-out for a newly, teenage mistress. What a guy!
With all of the single guys out there, you are choosing a relationship with a man, who apparently is not satisfied with one woman. Do you really want to go there? I don't know where you are from, but where I come from, guys like that have a name, and if I type it, my advise will probably not get posted.
OPEN YOUR EYES GIRL! You are too young to be with a man old enough to punish you from your cell phone. Move on and let him finish what he started. I really feel sorry for his new bride.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): In all cases where someone is considering becoming "the other woman", I always ask them to consider what they can say they know about the man-to-cheat. Numer one SHOULD be "I know he doesn't have qualms about cheating", which OUGHT to spell d-i-s-a-s-t-e-r to the rational woman.
Your wording here is excellent - should you 'risk' getting together with him? You're likely thinking about the risk of getting caught, but you should consider the risk of getting lied to or otherwise jerked around by this guy. Cheating does not speak well to his character. Consider that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): Of course you shouldn't. You're only 16-17, which means he's either 29 or 30.
And he's MARRIED. Please, leave him alone. Think of how you'd feel if you were his wife and knew he was having an affair with a teenage girl.
Besides, you don't want a man who is willing to cheat on his new wife.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Drop it like a hot potato, no future here.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (10 January 2007):
 What on earth is a newly married man who is thirteen years older than yourself telling a young girl he really likes her.
He has got trouble spelt out all over him hun, and my avice would be to stay well away from this guy.
He has been married five minutes and is trying to start an affair already. Seriously, what does this tell you about what sort of guy he is. Do you want to be his mistress, his bit on the side.
Get someone your one age hun and leave this guy to his new wife.
Good luck x
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