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30-35,
*indaloo
writes:So my brother in laws best friend who he's known since primary school has asked me to go out with him to join them all far a meal. Last time he was out, he was pretty drunk, but we were dancing with each other. He started talking to me via social networking site and he suggested that I come out too. So we are going for a meal with their group of friends, obviously my sister is going too so that'll be nice. However he is 29 and I'm 22 years old. He is a lovely person and it would be great to get to know him more. But I'm not sure whether he just wants sex or genuinely wants to get to know me. I thought maybe it should be just me and him on the first time, but I haven't suggested this as I suggested that my siste and rob come too with a few others. Any advice or suggestions?? Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2015): Just don't put yourself in any situation where sex could be on the agenda (ie don't stay at his house alone) until you trust him and are happy to do so. I think the group date is a good idea then suggest some one on ones but keep them short and public (like meeting for a coffee)and make your own way there and back- no rides in his car alone. Some other dates I did with my boyf in the beginning was going to a show (like walk around fete thing) and going to the park\woods with my dog. There's a cafe there so we could stop and have a drink, lots of opportunity to talk, busy day so lots of people around and my dog obviously so nothing is going to happen lol can make it as long or as short as I like. This is a good date for me as if someone will tolerate several mad hikes with me and my dog tells me theyre not wanting sex straight away. (Who would bother otherwise!) Basically I would not go to the guys house (or in his car somewhere) alone with him until I was ready to have sex. If the guy is happy to keep meeting you with no sex then obviously interested in you not just your down below!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 I think getting to know him by going out with him and people who know you both is a good idea.
Why would you think he just wants sex? He asked you out on a group date.
Enjoy getting to know him, go out on group dates and suggest one-on-one dates when it's time.
If he does make a pass or ask for sex, tell him that you prefer to get to know someone better and actually be in an exclusive dating situation before that.
Is the age difference what is worrying you? Or does he seem particularly sexually aggressive in any way?
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