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writes:I just found out that my 21 year old daughter's boyfriend is planning to cheat on her, only the way I found out was dishonest on my part. When he came to pick her up tonight he left his cell phone at our house. We immediately called her and they turned around to get it. In the meantime, I looked through his text messages and found messages to two other girls, explicitly asking them to meet him and discussing sexual encounters. I am beyond upset and don't know how to handle this. I need my daughter to be aware of his actions and I am really afraid of him transmitting a sexually related disease to her since one of the girls is a known "easy" target around town. How do I approach this since I got his information in such a dishonest way?
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (27 December 2008):
I think that it is best that you tell your daughter and hope that the mesages are there. I would want my family to tell me if they knew for certain if my boyfriend was cheating. Welcome your daughter home and help he through the break up.
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reader, headphonejunkie +, writes (27 December 2008):
Hi,
I'm around your daughters age, and I think that how you came to know this information is of little happenstance compared to what it is. She should absolutely know!
Honestly.. the best way to approach it is to be completely honest. Tell her you were afraid to approach her about it, because of the way it was obtained. I think she'll be too furious with him to even think of being upset at you. Also, it couldn't hurt to gently push her to stand her ground with him. Players are notorious for being smooth talkers!
As far as transmitting a disease... I would hope that your daughter is practicing safe sex, but I know most kids in my generation are under the impression that "those things" happen to other people, and not them. It's a real tragedy considering the epidemics of sexually transmitted disease from herpes to HIV/Aids.
Good luck!
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