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writes:Dear cupidAbout six months ago I was at a small party with my friend and her boyfriend. my friend and her boyfriend were having some issues. They had been constantly bickering throughout the night. They then went outside to sort things out alone, and my friends boyfriend flipped out, he was physically abusive to her.He then ran to his car and drove off.I didn't know any of this had happend because I was inside chatting with a few people I knew.I found her about 15 minutes after he hurt her. She was outside crying.One of my friends took us home and she never contacted him again. Until now, that is.She met up with him two months ago, and they're dating again. I'm worried for her safety because he's gets very angry. Like last week she was taking some shopping in for him, and she dropped it and smashed some eggs.He went mad and called her horrible names. All she did was apologise and said she'd buy him some more eggs.She also has a bruise on her cheek, she says it's from when a ball hit her in the face in Netball practice. But I don't belive her.Everytime I try to talk to her about this stuff she gets angry at me and says that I just want to break them up.I don't know what to do, and I'm really worried about her. Please help!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): Sadly, trying to interfere will just re-enforce her believe that the problems are caused by the world, society and the alignment of planets. Anything really except her own bad judgment in men.She has to find on her own that the issue has only one cause, she made the wrong choice. Admitting that YOUR own choice is bad, that is extremely hard. Try it, admit your mobile phone was the wrong buy. You can't. You WILL find excuses! You trying to get in between them, that is one hell of an excuse. If only the world would give HIM a break, he wouldn't be like this!Stand by, be ready to assist when she is ready but do NOT pull, that will only make her struggle more.
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