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writes:Heres my story. I started dating my best friend of several years just about a year ago. Everything was going fine untill a few months ago when he started agruing with me over everything. He is always canceling plans and ditching me to go do drugs with his friends its a real piss off. Well he recently cheated on me...5 times...with his best friend from grade school. His best friend from grade school is a guy..so basically on 5 seperate occasions my boyfriend cheated on me with a man. Now I'm wondering...(Im still with him by the way) does this give me like...5 free cards or somthing? To do what I want with someone else and he cant say SHIT? Help my Aunts.. :(
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reader, Bobito  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 Ok.
1) He cheated on you (whether he did it with a guy or with a girl, or with an alien, it doesn't matter to me).
2) You say you're pissed off about him ditching you all the time.
3) He argues with you all the time.
Do you think you'll be able to trust him again? If not, dump him. Whatever the reason why he's behaving like that, you two won't be able to get back to what you were before.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): We are talking about a main issue and a subsidiary one here.The main issue would be to go test for Hep B and HCV, as homosexuality + drugs = Not a very nice result. Once 13 weeks pass since the last time you had unprotected sex "if any" go and check for HIV via ELISA AB test.The above mentioned was the main issue. The subsidiary one is your bf and the relationship. No matter what gender he cheated with, cheating is cheating. You don't wanna be with a cheater. For every reason I can think of I am advising you strongly to break up with him immediately, and of course do not do the same as he did. Cheating is low, do you really wanna learn how to be a low person?! Just get out of this madness and get your normal life back. You will meet a fine guy who is neither into his male friends sexually nor into drugs, and you'll feel a huge positive change in your life!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Ok let's take a minute to accept that your boyfriend is gay. Now, that we've accepted that he no longer likes vagina, it's time to end the relationship if it isn't already over. He's cheated on you 5 times so I'm thinking it's definitely over. After you've done that, go back to being friends then proceed to date whomever you please. Why take the extra time to cheat on him to try to get back at him when you can just accept it, opt out, and then do what you want?
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Uh. Your boyfriend cheated on you and all you care about is getting a free pass to sleep with someone else?
I think you might want to rethink this relationship.
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reader, misfitschik66 +, writes (7 September 2010):
 PLEASE do not stoop that low, you will just be as low as him if you do decide to get revenge
2 wrongs don't make a right
in your case 5 wrongs don't make a right
if you are that angry with him to the point you believe you deserve "5 free cards" LEAVE HIM!
do not cheat on him it makes you look just as bad
you need to ask yourself
1) why did he cheat?
2)do you love him enough to work through this?
3) does he even want to work through this?
if you said yes you do love him enough to work through this seek a professional councilor if he also wants to work through this
if he cheated on you with a man maybe he is gay?
is he gay?
if he is then you need to accept this and move on because there is no way you can have a healthy relationship with someone who has no interest in your sex
he may be in denial about his sexuality
was it experimenting?
you need to be upfront with your man and ask him why exactly he did this!
he may feel like crap!
we are not getting the full story here
this does not give you the right to go out and sleep around!
use your head!
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